ksr5377 Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 A friend just lost his mother yesterday and I would like to take something to her home as I know he and his two siblings will be staying there during the next week as the deal with the planning of her funeral etc. I was thinking maybe a deli platter or fruit/cheese platter? I know his sister is funny about eating food from homes she's not been in, so I was planning on purchasing something. Does anyone have any better ideas? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 I think that is a great idea. When my ds passed away, food was very helpful. A deli tray is great for lunchtime too. Paper plates, etc is good too. Also - sometimes it is helpful to send food in about a month or so instead of right away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmmiSays Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 A friend just lost his mother yesterday and I would like to take something to her home as I know he and his two siblings will be staying there during the next week as the deal with the planning of her funeral etc. I was thinking maybe a deli platter or fruit/cheese platter? I know his sister is funny about eating food from homes she's not been in, so I was planning on purchasing something. Does anyone have any better ideas? This is what I usually do. Along with the costco size water bottles or juice drinks. Food is usually the last thing people in mourning want to think about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 I think deli trays, trays of sandwiches, veggie trays, etc are really good ideas. Pasta salad also works. Anything pre-made that they can just grab to eat. Lighter foods tend to go over better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 You are on the right track. Something that can be refrigerated and brought out whenever is always good. Papergoods are great! A few rolls of toilet paper can be a lifesaver if the household is caught without. And AMEN to remembering them six or eight weeks (and MONTHS) from now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HollyDay Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 When daddy died, we appreciated a big plate of rolls and ham. They made quick snacks. I have to say though, the things I appreciated most were the foods and cards that came later. The grief process takes time. It was nice someone remembered a month out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LillyMama Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 This is a little off-topic... But I try to make a note in my calendar for about 6-8 weeks after the funeral. Then I send another card, telling the bereaved that I'm still thinking of them. Sometimes I think people get a rush of attention right after the loss and then all of a sudden, it dies down. But it hurts for SO long afterwards, I just like to try to remind them I'm there if they want to talk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TexasRachel Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 (edited) :iagree: with pp. we never wanted to sit down and eat after DS died so having stuff we could graze on helped. And definitely lots of paper goods, cups, and cutlery. Edited May 12, 2012 by TexasRachel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 Paper products are really appreciated---toilet paper, kleenex, paper plates, napkins, cups, plasticware, etc. Then no one has to worry about dishes, etc. Even a bag of trash bags. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 Go and mow the grass? Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tennislady29 Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 When we through this, my family really appreciated a huge green salad someone purchased from a local place. We had lots of casseroles and desserts, which were nice, but the lighter salad was great to have on hand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted May 12, 2012 Share Posted May 12, 2012 Food is always helpful. When my mom passed away, several people sent me edible fruit baskets. One of the days I was so stressed out trying to handle all of the funeral arrangements and make plans for out of town family, that the fruit from the baskets was the only thing I ate. Deli trays are also a good idea. Gift cards to a restaurant are good too. After it was all over, I still wasn't ready for my life to get back to normal, including cooking meals. The restaurant gift cards I received were just what we needed on the days when I was still overwhelmed with grief. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Yell Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 Any easy-to-serve food with minimal clean up. I buy a container of Rotisserie Chicken Salad from SAM's club with a bag of Deli Flats bun things. Delicious, and easy to make a sandwich whenever anyone is hungry. Add some bottled water/juice/sodas (individual servings) and baby carrots & grapes and it;s a nutritious easy meal. "uncrustables" PB&J sandwiches if children will be visiting. A gift card to a restaurant or take-out place is also nice. Paper plates/plastic forks/paper cups are also nice to have. Not having to shop, cook, microwave, heat up, and clean up is such a blessing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bookfiend Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 Breakfast food. Helped us so much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 If you really want to be considered thoughtful...remember them the first Thanksgiving/Christmas season and the first Mother's Day without their mom. Grief takes years sometimes to mellow and quit hurting. 17 years of Mother's Days without my mom...and counting...;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieSong Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 Wow, great ideas! I also appreciated having a casserole, soup, or other dish that could be frozen and brought out at a future time. This is especially nice if the family is overloaded with food in the beginning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 Any food is good, especially lighter stuff. Gift cards are great for later. We really appreciated extra boxes of Kleenex, too. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G5052 Posted May 13, 2012 Share Posted May 13, 2012 When DH's parents died, people brought cold cuts, rolls, packaged salads, and fruit. We ate on that for days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollyh Posted May 14, 2012 Share Posted May 14, 2012 breakfast foods like OJ, muffins, bagels- esp if they have people staying with them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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