2e-ever feel like reality is attacking?

[Dmmetler]

We're visiting family this week, and it seems like every time I turn around I get hit by just how different my DD is from their sweet, bright, and...well...NORMAL kids. Sometimes it's the cognitive side-not so much knowledge, but thinking (although it was frustrating both DD and her 5th grade cousin when DD was trying to help cousin with her homework, and DD kept using math skills cousin hadn't learned yet), but then they're trying to play outside, and DD's motor skills and what her sensory system will let her handle is just so much less than even what the 5 yr old can manage, let alone the 7 yr old, who is only 6 weeks older than DD.

 

It just seems like my little person is some sort of different species entirely-and I know DD is feeling that way, too-which is in and of itself a difference-she's far more self conscious than anyone but maybe the 11 yr old.

 

Maybe I've just been able to keep my head in the sand, but it's both frustrating and scary.

[FairProspects]

Yeah, I feel this way frequently. It is so hard to watch ds struggle and occasionally get made fun of in TKD because his sensory system cannot get his body to function, but then he turns around and tries to explain his latest robotics project with enthusiasm to the neighborhood kids only to watch their eyes glaze over. He really has a hard time fitting in anywhere. :sad:

[Walking-Iris]

We're visiting family this week, and it seems like every time I turn around I get hit by just how different my DD is from their sweet, bright, and...well...NORMAL kids. Sometimes it's the cognitive side-not so much knowledge, but thinking (although it was frustrating both DD and her 5th grade cousin when DD was trying to help cousin with her homework, and DD kept using math skills cousin hadn't learned yet), but then they're trying to play outside, and DD's motor skills and what her sensory system will let her handle is just so much less than even what the 5 yr old can manage, let alone the 7 yr old, who is only 6 weeks older than DD.

 

It just seems like my little person is some sort of different species entirely-and I know DD is feeling that way, too-which is in and of itself a difference-she's far more self conscious than anyone but maybe the 11 yr old.

 

Maybe I've just been able to keep my head in the sand, but it's both frustrating and scary.

 

 

I do feel this way too a lot of times. It can be painful to watch your 9 year old struggling to do things the other kids do with ease. Frustrating---as in co-op for example. We've been going to the same place and doing essentially the same schedule all year and yet STILL he is stepping on my heels or looking confused as to where to go and what to do-----:banghead: Scary---because you want everything to be perfect for your children.

 

Frustrating when other adults seem to stare and wonder at your child or worse try to give you advice (sometimes i want to scream "shut it you have nooo idea"

 

Frustrating because you see other parents taking it easy because their kids are independent and your 9 year old is still functioning on a 4 year old level physically at times (maybe less when i think about what my 4 year nt kid does in comparison)

 

:grouphug:

[Dandelion]

I feel this way frequently too....

 

DS8 can carry on conversations at a peer-level with the IT guys at DH's office or the local computer store (about computer programming, technology, etc.) but conversations with his age-peers usually fizzle out after about 5 min. because they think he's weird. He reads our old college textbooks for fun (and has been for about 2 years now), but he struggles with reading nonverbal communication and facial expressions. Socially and emotionally, his 3.5 year old sister often seems more mature than DS.

 

When the dichotomy is that great, it's difficult to find a place for your child to truly fit in. It's hard. :grouphug: