fhjmom Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 I will do my best to keep it brief. Since DH and I were married when she was 11, our relationship with step-DD has been... ummm... very stressful. She lived with us full-time and left home as soon as she turned 18, by her choice. She has barely spoken to me at all since moving out, and even then not under the best of circumstances. She now has 2 babies (21 months and 8 months) and lives several hours away She is on her way to drop them off at our house for the weekend. We haven't seen them since she dropped them for four days in December. I have not spoken with her since then, either. She makes all plans through DH by text and is very non-committal and unclear on if they are or are not coming until they are on the way. He doesn't bother to push for clarification either. I had literally 45 minutes notice this time. (Two weeks ago, DH mentioned they *might* be coming for a few days around spring break, then no other mention of it until last night when I asked at 10 o'clock if she ever answered him about the kids coming). She texted him a few minutes ago that they were on the way. She literally only speaks to me to tell me things like, "here are the diapers, clothes, etc. and K's medicine schedule." Did I mention that the 21 month old has a genetic condition that causes seizures and has to be on medication given on a strict schedule? (She doesn't keep us up to date about his doctors visits or how he is doing either.) Our house is not baby/toddler friendly. We are in the LEGO/Squinky/Polly Pocket phase here and every toy has tons of tiny parts. My house is a cluttered wreck. I have papers due for my masters program, the kids have school work to do, we still have other kids' activities this weekend, including a play audition to prepare for. I am tired. I am stressed and I am not feeling up to taking on two babies for three days. I am mad and resentful right now, but I want to just be able to love on these sweet babies when I get the chance, because it isn't very often. I feel like DD doesn't even like me and yet she leaves her children with me for days with very little interaction. In December, she didn't even call to check on them the whole time they were here. Help me get the other stuff out of the way so I can be a better grandma. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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