Connections Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 (edited) What do you do to instill accountability (preferably without losing your mind)? When assignments are not completed on time, what do you do? Right now we play wii one day/ week as a family. if work is not done or deadlines have not been met, the offender must sit out. The problem I am having (aside from the difficulty of being the bad guy) is that I want my children to work hard and to finish their assignments because it is the right thing to do and to pursue excellence- not to avoid a punishment. I am beginning to think this is a personality issue as one of my DS works diligently while the other avoids work. However, I am not willing to let this go. I am determined to help him learn self-discipline. We are in the middle school years, BTW, and I am working hard to tailor each of their educations to provide the appropriate challenges for their learning abilities. Edited March 16, 2012 by Connections (Change in title) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasharowan Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 For us, there is no video games on the weekend unless all school work is completed. Watching the others play while you are stuck in your room reading and writing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flossboss Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 I'm with you - I don't want DS to finish work on time, be a cheerful learner, be a good listener, etc. just to avoid punishment. I desperately want to him to understand the glory of "a job well done" and have that be enough but I'm afraid at this stage of his life, it's not always this way!:banghead: I am just going to do my best to keep being as consistent as possible. I most definitely have room for improvement on my part in the "positive reinforcement" area so I'm going to push for betterment here. Perhaps that will help??? I think it shows tremendous passion on your part as a mother to want integrity and accountability from your kids in every aspect of their lives. Keep up the good work, mom! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bang!Zoom! Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 Funny this is out there right now, I'm wondering some of the same things. It's going to take me a couple of days to figure out how to just approach this with our lifestyle. I'm going to pick up a board game today at the thrift and redesign it with activities to win rewards or permissions. I think there's something to ignoring in a way the negative and instead, going overboard with recognition for positive behaviors. It seems to me that this one does better with accomplishment rewards rather than punishment methods; but that's just this kid I suppose. I don't know if this will work or not honestly - but I'm willing to try for 30 days to create some habit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitestavern Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 :lurk5: DH and I have had this discussion recently. He was raised being held accountable by punishment; I was an average to very good student and my parents didn't really do anything to hold me accountable. I really want to figure out how to instill in my dc a great work ethic and a desire to excel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted March 16, 2012 Share Posted March 16, 2012 :lurk5: DH and I have had this discussion recently. He was raised being held accountable by punishment; I was an average to very good student and my parents didn't really do anything to hold me accountable. I really want to figure out how to instill in my dc a great work ethic and a desire to excel. I want this too....I'm beginning to think it is (at least in large part) a personality thing. My oldest is not genetically inclined that way. It's hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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