Wheres Toto Posted March 9, 2012 Share Posted March 9, 2012 I've been spending a lot of time at bowling talking to the mom of a gifted 9 year old that is just like my son. I posted a couple weeks ago about thinking my son may be gifted with overexcitabilities or adhd or ?? So, this week one of her friends was there who is a child psychologist. Her son is also gifted but is 2e with an Asperger's diagnosis as well. This kid and my son definitely did NOT get along. Everything my son did this kid found annoying. But that was handled as it happened and wasn't really an issue. As we were talking, I had mentioned looking up different testing at a local college and thinking about doing it at some point. The child psych mom asked me why I wanted to test. I said so that we would know what he really needs and how to work with him better. For example - if he does have ADHD we may try diet and other changes and if truly necessary, medications. If he is gifted, I may offer him more challenges or enroll him in classes or activities geared toward that (the friend 9 year old does a bunch of classes where they are very good with the kids who are on the jump around like crazy side). Anyway, she suggested making some changes to see how they work even without testing. She even suggested a trial of ADHD medications to see if they help. I'm not against medications if they are needed (dh is a pharmaceutical chemist) but I'm not really comfortable giving my son medications he might not need and I don't think giving adhd medications and seeing a change is necessarily "proof" of adhd, kwim? Even the most "mild" of them have side effects. I said I wasn't comfortable with unnecessary medications but I had a hard time explaining why I thought it was important to understand his needs in order to do what was best for him. She had put her son in a non-academic preschool to make sure he wouldn't be too advanced in kindergarten. She homeschools now but her son goes to a part time private school and does mostly tutoring type things. So she didn't feel it was necessary to "challenge" my son and felt that kids who needed more would find it for themselves. But, he's 6 1/2. He can complain that he's bored but unless I give him unlimited access to the internet, I don't see how he's going to just find his own challenges. Any thoughts on this? I do try to meet my son where he's at, I just feel that knowing what his issues and strengths are might make it easier to see he gets what he needs. I'm not planning to push him but I don't want to hold him back either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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