woolybear Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 I posted on another thread about a problem I had with the dc. Although this is an ongoing problem, I had a specific incident the other night. Several nights ago something similar happened and I told ds he could not go to his wrestling practice the next day. I thought it over and told him I had overreacted and since he had improved his behaviour the next day I would let him go. Well, after practice we had a similar problem. So, my patience was shot and my go-to response was "no practice tomorrow night." Okay, so here's the issues: First of all, I know I have been overreacting due to burn out on this issue. I didn't have a planned response, just a knee jerk reaction. Second, I don't really think missing practices is a good idea. I think being committed to both the sport and the team is important. Plus the season is winding down and next week is possibly the last week of practices. So, without being a really bad stupid parent, can I change this? I think it's okay to back out sometimes, but not twice in a row!! However, my feeling is perhaps there could be an alternative? Something maybe that makes him think a little? Something that doesn't get him off the hook, but lets him go to practice without thinking, "Ha! Mom is such a wimp. I guess I can just get away with this." Background: The behaviour I'm referring to includes calling his brother a name (general unkindness is an issue of late) and then in response to my saying this is not okay--his arguing/justifying it and then a very delayed apology. The second part bothered me as much if not more than the first part. A quick "I'm sorry." and I think I wouldn't have lost my cool about it. So, my head tells me I just need to stand by what I said and not let him go to practice tomorrow. But some little voice is saying......I'm not sure what....can I change without losing all my parenting mojo? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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