Nakia Posted February 28, 2012 Share Posted February 28, 2012 (edited) I am feeling frustrated by this thread, and so I'm going to post one last time to try and make myself heard. No one is trying to take away parental rights. We are trying to give parents the right to know that their infant is safe! Do you really want to have your baby in a hospital that lets people freely carry infants around the unit and off the unit as they please? If so, then please don't plan to deliver in Asheville, NC. I work at a huge teaching hospital with a diverse population. I had a 12 year old mother last summer and a Wall Street banker this past weekend, and neither were allowed to walk the halls carrying their babies or cosleep. I have taken care of many drug addicts and quite a few physicians and lawyers. It is not a matter of who has the most education or money; it's about the babies. And guess what? Not everyone is going to be honest on admission and admit there is a custodial issue. Heck, lots of time the "dad" in the room isn't even the real dad but just the latest boyfriend. We have a 40 bed postpartum unit and a 60 bed NICU. The nurses do not have time to police the unit. We are too busy providing direct patient care. That's why there are policies, a security system, video cameras, and frequent room to room rounding. That's why only one person (and no children) can spend the night with mom and baby. If you have never worked on a postpartum unit, then you simply do not get it. I have 6-8 patients every night, and my number one priority is keeping that mom and baby safe. I have been a nurse for 15 years (4 on postpartum) and with very exceptions, I have always had a great relationship with my patients, and I always respect their wishes, within reason. I will not risk my patient's safety or my job by letting the dad do as he pleases, or the mom for that matter. If I can't work it out, I get help. Sometimes that's my supervisor, sometimes it's security, sometimes it's the pediatrician. If a mother signs her baby out AMA (the father is not allowed to leave the postpartum unit with the baby, period, unless mom is with him), then CPS will get involved 100% of the time. That's just the way it is. The rules exist because somewhere right now a baby is being stolen from a hospital somewhere in this country. The rules exist because babies die in bed with mom. That's why the rules exist. I know I sound defensive, and I am, I guess. It irks me when people come to a hospital to have their baby and then act like they shouldn't have to abide by the policies that have been put in place for their protection. I absolutely love my job, and I wouldn't want to work anywhere else, even with all its craziness. Holding and caring for a brand new baby is the best feeling in the world. I would never forgive myself if I let someone "get around" the rules and something happened to that baby. Edited February 28, 2012 by Nakia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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