Chrysalis Academy Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 (edited) Ok, I am going to come right out and say it. The L-word. My child is lazy. She does not want to do schoolwork. She wants to play outside, do craft projects, read a book, or anything besides mental work that requires effort. She is really smart, and she coasted through ps without much effort, she was never challenged and wasn't getting much out of it. I thought this was a bad thing, and knew I could do a better job giving her a thorough, complete, rigorous education. But she doesn't want to do the work. If I am not either a) sitting with her while she works (i.e. math), or b) directly teaching her, she either dawdles & daydreams and gets nothing done, or she goes off to play and I have to constantly bring her back on task. This is really a big issue for me right now, because I own a business, and I have to work on Fridays (all day) and other hours during the week (around her school schedule) to keep it going. Juggling teaching and work is a huge ordeal, very worth it to give her a good education, but a lot of stress. I feel like I'm constantly shortchanging someone, either my clients or my daughter's education, and that feels awful. Not working at all is not an option financially, we have a mortgage. So, I have been trying hard to assign her meaningful work - not busywork - that she can do on Fridays and at other times when I have to meet with clients, etc. Today was a disaster. She had a total meltdown in the morning when she needed to do math - it's TT, it is dead easy for her, it's just that she wanted to play and not work. Then again after lunch - I told her she needed to come in and do her history & writing, and she melted down again. Again, the work is not too hard - she just doesn't want to do it, she wants to play. I'm so frustrated. I spent a big chunk of time today dealing with meltdowns. I am screaming inside, but I try and react very calmly and logically - if I come down on her hard, then she melts down over that, calling herself stupid for disappointing me, etc. and the whole dramatic ordeal just drags out longer. I give her the talk: writing is not negotiable, math is not negotiable, these are skills you must have to be a successful human being. You have to learn how to work hard in order to have anything good in life. You have developed the habit of avoiding hard work: I am trying to teach you more than just the facts, I am trying to teach you the work habits and life skills you will need to be a successful adult. Yadda yadda yadda. So she's talked down, and sits down to do her work, I go off to a meeting, come home, she's at theater class, and I look at what she's written. It's crap. Excuse my French. Poorly spelled, lots of filler, no point, it is so beneath her ability level, I know she just did the minimum to fill the page. I feel like crying, I feel like yelling, I feel like giving up and sending her back to ps. What do I do? How do I address this with her? WWYD? Edited February 18, 2012 by rroberts707 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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