jen3kids Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 but what do you think? My older ds (14) has a friend (girl) who has come to his wrestling matches - her parents or grandparents drop her off and pick her up. I can't control that. She is quite shy, but very polite and respectful. Last week he asked if she could come home with him on the bus after school and her mom would pick her up at 5:30. We allowed that - an adult was home the entire time, no upstairs, just hanging out in the common areas of our house. I talked to her mom who called to make sure an adult would be home - she was fine with it. On Saturday he asks if he can go to her grandparents' place 30 minutes away. I was away, but dh said he didn't want to drive as he had already driven 3 hours that morning, so sorry, but no. Ds was fine with that, he understood. He explains to her why not. She texts back that her grandparents will pick him up at 5 and bring him home at 8:30. Dh says yes. They hung out, played pool, ate dinner, watched tv. Yesterday he asks if he can go home on the bus with her and then to her grandparents' house on Friday. I say to him that this is not 'just a friend', is it? He gives me a shy smile. Not really. I've told him no dating until he's 16. Dh doesn't agree. He figures it's harmless; there is always an adult around. Neither of them drive (she's 15) so they're at the mercy of the adults. This is entirely new ground for me and I'm not enjoying it. I'm so conflicted. He's growing up, needs some more freedom. I trust him, I guess, but I also have so many 'what ifs' running through my head. :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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