lisamarie Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'm sick. 100 fever, sore throat, cough, congested, ear infection. I haven't started meds yet (DH is going to pick them up today). But my SIL is getting married today. My DD4 is the flower girl. DH thinks I should stay home. I think I should just suck it up and go because it's a once-in-a-lifetime thing. I'll just drug myself up (tylenol, decongestant) and hope for the best. Would you go anyway or stay home? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonnie in VA Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'd probably go to the wedding (being careful not to sit too closely to anyone else) but not to the reception. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Please stay home - there will undoubtedly be many old folks and others who do NOT need to catch the creeping crud from you! Tell hubby to pay attention and fill you in later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenn- Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Please stay home - there will undoubtedly be many old folks and others who do NOT need to catch the creeping crud from you! Tell hubby to pay attention and fill you in later. Not to mention, your SIL doesn't want to spend her honeymoon sick. Trust me, I did that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hana Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'm sorry, but I'm another vote for please stay home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Cornelia Snook Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 If it's possible to send your daughter with your husband while you stay home, I'd do that. Just to be considerate of everyone else. (But my heart would be crying the whole time!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Please stay home - there will undoubtedly be many old folks and others who do NOT need to catch the creeping crud from you! Tell hubby to pay attention and fill you in later. :iagree::iagree: I worry about my mom, in particular, at this time of year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I would call your SIL and explain (or have hubby do it) and see what her feelings are. I am a firm believer that sick people need to stay home, but I have gone to a thing that was important before, BUT I (and DH) warned people to stay away from me if they tried to come close and I was VERY diligent in sneezing into my arm away from anyone, making sure I kept washing and sanitizing my hands, and staying off to myself in a corner. It was important that I be there, but I made every effort to steer clear of anyone and not touch anything with my hands. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I would send your dd with your dh to the wedding but you should stay home. YOu can't risk getting other;'s sick. What if gramma has a lowered immune system, what if best friend suzy is about to start chemo, what if someone has their young children there? It is not fair to the rest if you show up sick. I didn't go to my sister's wedding or my cousin's (both had destination weddings I could not afford), while it is disappointing to miss it, it is not the end of the world. I would rather miss it due to illness than have to attend gramma's funeral a few weeks later because she caught it and developed pneumonia or something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I would stay home. Send dd with dh. :grouphug: Hope you feel better soon. Have dh use the video on his phone or bring video camera that way you can see the marriage ceremony. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2abcd Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Is the wedding nearby or would it involve a long drive? If it's close by, I would drive separately from dh and sit in the balcony, away from any other guests. Then slip out after others have gone. This way you get to see your daughter (being a flower girl is a big deal!) and the wedding, but not overdo it or spread germs. Has your dd been a flowergirl before? Is she nervous? Depending on the situation, she might be comforted knowing Mom is nearby or she might be upset that you can't be right there with her. Maybe she would like to make a little game of it, glancing up at you in the balcony when she can. Of course, if the wedding isn't at a church where there is a balcony, this idea might not even work! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'd go separately from dh & kids, duck in at the last moment (away from other guests), and then sneak out before everyone else stands after the ceremony. I'd skip the reception, but I'd leave a note that dh could give the bride, wishing them the best, saying how sorry I was to miss the party, and that I was looking forward to seeing pictures of the fun. Oh, and lots of hand sanitizer before I even touched the doorknob to enter the building. Sorry you're not up to participating fully--that stinks! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spaceman Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'd go, stay away from people as much as I could and not attend the reception. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I would go. The bride and groom will be so busy they won't miss you not hanging all over them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Is the wedding nearby or would it involve a long drive? If it's close by, I would drive separately from dh and sit in the balcony, away from any other guests. Then slip out after others have gone. This way you get to see your daughter (being a flower girl is a big deal!) and the wedding, but not overdo it or spread germs. Has your dd been a flowergirl before? Is she nervous? Depending on the situation, she might be comforted knowing Mom is nearby or she might be upset that you can't be right there with her. Maybe she would like to make a little game of it, glancing up at you in the balcony when she can. Of course, if the wedding isn't at a church where there is a balcony, this idea might not even work! :iagree: This, or stay home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A.Balaban Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 My vote is stay home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 A compromise, perhaps? Can you sit alone in the choir loft to see the wedding itself, and then head home right afterward? That way you can see the special moment and show your sil that you were there for her but won't infect others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MotherMayI Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'd probably go to the wedding (being careful not to sit too closely to anyone else) but not to the reception. :iagree: I would sit away from people. After the wedding I would congratulate the happy couple and then excuse myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I would go -- I would not miss it for anything. I would sit quietly, be pleasant, and leave as soon as I could without appearing to be unsociable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'm sick. 100 fever, sore throat, cough, congested, ear infection. I haven't started meds yet (DH is going to pick them up today). But my SIL is getting married today. My DD4 is the flower girl. DH thinks I should stay home. I think I should just suck it up and go because it's a once-in-a-lifetime thing. I'll just drug myself up (tylenol, decongestant) and hope for the best. Would you go anyway or stay home? I would go and just keep your distance from other people. Use a lot of hand sanitizer. Maybe skip the reception. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Stay home. I went to my sister's wedding with a raging case of hay fever and it was miserable. I look awful in all the pictures and I was trying to hide in the back row so it wouldn't ruin the family shots. If I had been contagious I would have stayed home and been glad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FairProspects Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Stay home! There could be early pregnant women there, and a high fever could be very dangerous for them and their unborn babies (ask me how I know). Watch a video of it later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MindyD Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 It's only a 100 degree fever, it's not like it's the flu. If you really want to go or think you need to be there, go. Try not to get too close to anyone, use lots of hand sanitizer and wash your hands with soap and water whenever you get a chance. Skip the reception maybe, but I wouldn't skip the wedding over a cold. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotAVampireLvr Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I would go, sit in the back and skip the reception. Put DH in charge of your dd and if you have to keep the other two home with you so he's not dragging them around while helping your dd. I would NOT call the bride. She has enough on her plate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'm sick. 100 fever, sore throat, cough, congested, ear infection. I haven't started meds yet (DH is going to pick them up today). But my SIL is getting married today. My DD4 is the flower girl. DH thinks I should stay home. I think I should just suck it up and go because it's a once-in-a-lifetime thing. I'll just drug myself up (tylenol, decongestant) and hope for the best. Would you go anyway or stay home? You should stay home. Why risk making everyone else sick just so you can see her? I'm with your husband on this one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 It's only a 100 degree fever, it's not like it's the flu. If you really want to go or think you need to be there, go. Try not to get too close to anyone, use lots of hand sanitizer and wash your hands with soap and water whenever you get a chance. Skip the reception maybe, but I wouldn't skip the wedding over a cold. Having a fever is not normally just a cold. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Candid Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I would call your SIL and explain (or have hubby do it) and see what her feelings are. I am a firm believer that sick people need to stay home, but I have gone to a thing that was important before, BUT I (and DH) warned people to stay away from me if they tried to come close and I was VERY diligent in sneezing into my arm away from anyone, making sure I kept washing and sanitizing my hands, and staying off to myself in a corner. It was important that I be there, but I made every effort to steer clear of anyone and not touch anything with my hands. :iagree: This is a good plan. This way if she flips out then you can go, but if she'd rather you stay home then that's fine too. If you can write something brief that your dh could read as your toast if they have toasts at the reception that would be great. In law relations can be tough and a lifetime of off on the wrong foot should be avoid if at all possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan C. Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'd go, keep my distance, not sneeze, hug, etc. Under an hour, then back to bed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 :iagree: This is a good plan. This way if she flips out then you can go, but if she'd rather you stay home then that's fine too. If you can write something brief that your dh could read as your toast if they have toasts at the reception that would be great. In law relations can be tough and a lifetime of off on the wrong foot should be avoid if at all possible. Exactly. I try really hard to make sure I keep inlaw relations going well. It's important to my husband as he is a peacemaker type....he does not like contention. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I'd call the SIL, and let her know I wouldn't be there. No way would I risk making others sick. You never know who might be dealing w/a compromised immune system, and what's a case of the creeping crud for you could have severe consequences for them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama2Many4 Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I would stay home. Not only would you be spreading the nasties, but you'll be feeling lousy yourself the whole time. Make some tea, grab a book and stay in bed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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