Jean in Newcastle Posted January 22, 2012 Share Posted January 22, 2012 With the smoking, you might be dealing with addiction if he's been doing it awhile now. So it's going to be difficult for him to want to give it up. I don't have advice on how to handle this but perhaps others will. I don't know if a ped. would know of ways to help a young person quit smoking. And I don't know if it is advisable to even ask. I'd let him have whatever isn't directly hurting him right now. If he's using his computer in a healthy way (no porn, no violent games, no internet interaction with strangers etc.) then I would let him have it. In fact, I'd try to use that as a bridge to him - esp. if dh could play some of his favorite games with him. Keeping him home with you is going to be hard on everyone, but it really is what he needs. If he's home with you, he isn't going to be able to do self destructive things. Being home with you right now is more about keeping him safe than about him participating fully or happily with the family. Hopefully once some of his addictions to the self destructive behaviors are extinguished then he might gradually reach out to the others in the family. I would however have ground-rules so that while he doesn't have to be sunshine and roses, he isn't toxic to others in the family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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