Laura in MI Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 (edited) Dss12 still won't say a word to me (except some not so nice ones.) He doesn't talk to my older kids either.. He's starting to build a relationship with dh and he interacts with my younger kids. Dh gets mad at me for being upset about it... When dss12 was doing it to him he was upset too. Dd13 told me that dss12 hangs out with the bad kids at the middle school. She said she saw someone give him a cigarette. She also knows he has a girlfriend. She's heard rumors about some other things. Dss12 went over his friends house last weekend and slept over. He went again last night and he's staying over again tonight. He came home acting hungover last weekend. I didn't think it was a good idea in the first place but dh told me that it wasn't up to me. Then dh let him go over there again last night and stay there again tonight :confused: I feel like dh is trying to be his friend, not his parent which is really what he needs right now. Dh gets mad at me any time I try to offer my opinion on anything related to dss12. Now dh has the idea of putting him in private school next year. The private school has a 3 day week (sometimes 2). That means I'd be responsible to make him get his homework done. How am I suppose to do that when he doesn't even talk to me? It's not like he'll just do it on his own either. He doesn't want to go to the private school either. I told dh that I'm sorry but I don't think it'd be a good idea unless there are some major changes between now and then. I don't know why we would put him in the school. Dss12 is constantly saying mean things to me and my kids, I'm so sick of it. Dh does nothing. Ugh, I can't even stand to be at my own house sometimes. This is causing major problems between dh & I. (I think that's what dss12 wants) He expects me to sit back and let things I know are wrong continue to go on. I just can't do it. He parents my older kids, Heck they call him dad and think of them as their dad. That's been an issue too, My older 3 are very upset with him and can't believe what's going on. He's stricter on them then I am. :crying: It's just a mess. If you could say a prayer that there are some drastic changes that would be greatly appreciated Sorry this post is a jumbled up mess and if you read it thank you for listening.. ETA: Update in post 39 Edited January 22, 2012 by Laura in MI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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