bnrmom Posted January 20, 2012 Share Posted January 20, 2012 We have a long history of issues, and I'll spare you the details. She's a textbook narcissistic, victim mentality. My mom had hip surgery last week. Rough recovery, wasn't able to keep food down for a week, has been transferred to a nursing care facility and will be there for another week. Every single day I've been there, bringing food, running errands, doing laundry, putting socks on and off, dealing with nurses and prescriptions, putting lotion on her back, getting the right popsicles, making special soup, baked potatoes, muffins - anything she might be able to eat. You name it, I've been doing it. My sister was helping a bit last week, but refused to run errands or come by my house to pick up things my mom needed from here (my mom lives with me) even though my house is literally 4 minutes from the nursing facility. My sister lives 10 minutes from here. She refused to pick up the more comfortable leg wedge that was only sold at a medical supply store that is 6 minutes from her house, because, and I quote, "she had too many of her own errands to run." My sister is in part time art school, which started back up this week. She has not been to see my mom since Tuesday, and informed her via text that she will be unavailable for the foreseeable future. She's busy this week, this weekend, and all next week. Just too busy. You know, how a single person with no kids and no job would be when they go to art school part time. She completely bailed on me when my mom could no longer pay her rent and had to move in with me 5 months ago. Completely disappeared. Didn't help pack a single box or anything. She was "too busy." I am done. I am just done. I have spent hours and hours and hours helping my sister through every single freaking drama of her life (and there are sooooo many). It is a completely one way relationship, and I am done. I don't take cutting people out of my life lightly, but I don't see any reason to continue this relationship. I homeschool my kids, I work part-time (and Jan is the busiest month because I do bookkeeping and 1099s and the 31st is the deadline). Plus I've had to take over all my mom's clients (she's in the same line of work) because she didn't think she'd be out of commission this long. I'm doing conference calls at lunch when dh is home to watch the kids, and working evenings and weekends. I know on this board I don't have to list how crazy it is to homeschool and work at the same time. I have been going like a crazy woman, have cut out all "me" time - haven't gone to yoga in weeks, despite it being the only thing that keeps my back from going out. And she is just fine with dumping all of this on me. I want to scream and send nasty emails, but I'm just going to breathe through this and move forward. But thank you for letting me vent! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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