Canadianmumof5 Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 ......do they behave better the next day? The 3 olders got in a lot of trouble last night - DH and I were at the end of our ropes so they were all in bed by 8pm. Lights out. No reading. So today - they basically just picked up where they left off???? Instead of learning from last night - they are at it again! I don't get it :confused: Do your kids try to behave better after they've been in trouble? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 Not necessarily. Sometimes it takes a couple of go-arounds before it sinks in that THEIR behavior is the problem - not just Mom and Dad being in a bad mood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 Frankly, consequences have never seemed to transfer to behavior with my kids.:confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sputterduck Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 Mine is an angel after he gets in trouble. It makes me much calmer when he does get in trouble because I know things will be very peaceful for awhile. Sometimes, though, kids testing their boundaries need to run a particular test multiple times. Totally normal. :) Remember, it's their job to test their limits and it's your job to say, "Yes. This is a hard limit and you are not allowed to cross it." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 Not necessarily. Sometimes it takes a couple of go-arounds before it sinks in that THEIR behavior is the problem - not just Mom and Dad being in a bad mood. :iagree: zach likes to say "OUR RULES" get him in trouble and I tell him NO it's how he reacts/behaves that gets him in trouble Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2_girls_mommy Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 I am so glad it is not just my house. The "our rules" comment sounds just like my 9 yr old! But like others, after a couple of rounds, it usually changes. Whether it was due to the consequences or just that it has finally sunk it that life will be more pleasant if we do what we need to cheerfully, I don't know. Certainly I think the consequences help, but I don't think it is a one shot deal. We have problem areas that resurface occasionally in the same place. And we correct and discipline again. Sometimes the next day ours will be an angel, and sometimes still surly.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolphin Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 Mine is an angel after he gets in trouble. It makes me much calmer when he does get in trouble because I know things will be very peaceful for awhile. Sometimes, though, kids testing their boundaries need to run a particular test multiple times. Totally normal. :) Remember, it's their job to test their limits and it's your job to say, "Yes. This is a hard limit and you are not allowed to cross it." :iagree: ds9 is an angel afterwards. dd4 needs a few days of seeing if that boundary is real or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 If my kiddos are in trouble one day, and I handle it effectively, they behave better for a LONG time (varies depending on their age.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted January 19, 2012 Share Posted January 19, 2012 It depends. If it's multiple days of problems, I've found there's usually something else going on (getting sick, staying up late reading). If it's just being in a mood, it clears up by the next day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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