Blessedchaos Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 (edited) We have been looking at homes for some time in preparation to move. But there is a huge part of me that wants to stay in our current home. Dh doesn't agree. I need advice on what to do... Current house: -2,600 square foot rambler (ranch) with daylight full windows in the finished basement. -4 bedrooms -2 baths -Quiet, stable neighborhood full of mature trees and empty nesters (we've been here 10 years and are still the new kids on the block; no one ever moves. many of our neighbors are original owners or have been there over 20 years). -Not many kids -Great layout but not a very open floorplan. This could be changed for not a lot of $ ($5K or lower - we've had quotes) -We have done a LOT of remodeling to get the home to our tastes -Convenient location, but surrounding area is sort of old, busy, and not so pretty (our neighborhood is very nice and very pretty, though) Potential home (these are dh wants): -2 story (with basement) -Much larger (he's looking at least 3,500 finished which I think is WAY too big) -Newer home with much work done -Master bath, mudroom, main or upper laundry, larger yard We have no mortgage on our home and are completely debt free. For this reason alone I don't want to move; we worked very hard to get here. There are things I would love to have (a master bath, mudroom, main floor laundry) that I don't, but I don't need these things. I love my house, but there are still things I would like to do to it or that need to be done. Dh really wants to move. We have put an incredible amount of work and money into our current home fixing it up over the past 10 years and I think he is just done. He wants a big house that doesn't need work (haha:D). Or if we bought a house like a foreclosure that does need work then at least the house would have the potential to be great. He says that no matter how much money/work we put into this house it will still not have all the things we want and our resale will be limited; it will still have only 4 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms if you will. I understand he is tired and wants to be done, but I don't believe there is any such thing as a work-free house. I also see that financially we would be in a much better place to stay. We would essentially be starting over again with a mortgage. The thing is that the arguing over the house has become extreme. Every time I ask dh to do anything house related he gets really annoyed and life is miserable. Things as small as screwing something into the wall or changing window treatments (even if I spend no money and do it myself) cause arguments. I can't take it anymore. But I'm not sure moving will help these things or make them worse. For just the reason that he thinks they will be better makes me just want to go ahead and move. What to do? It seems like a no-brainer, but my dh doesn't think so... Help! Edited January 17, 2012 by Blessedchaos Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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