RoughCollie Posted January 16, 2012 Share Posted January 16, 2012 (edited) My MIL died last night. She was 96 years old. During the past six years, she had several strokes, a pacemaker put in, a broken hip, and severe dementia to the point where she recognized only her sisters. She lived in Florida in a very nice retirement community - the kind at which one starts out in an apartment, goes from there to assisted living, and from that to a nursing home, all on the same campus. Two of her sisters live there, too, and all of them moved there after their husbands died. One of his aunts visited MIL daily throughout MIL's stay in assisted living and the nursing home over a 6 year period. She was there whenever MIL had surgery, made sure MIL had everything she needed, supervised all of MIL's care. This aunt is 90 years old and still in good health -- she still golfs and leads an active life and lives in her apartment (not assisted living). She is wealthy and needs nothing material. I think we should do something for her to thank her for her care of MIL. I have thanked her, and so has DH, but I want to do something more than just words. Aunt will also take care of having MIL cremated and her remains sent to DH (to be interred in GA) and doing whatever will be done with MIL's possessions. There will not be a funeral or memorial service because MIL outlived her relatives (except for the 2 aunts and our family) and her friends. This morning, Aunt said it was a blessing that MIL died because her quality of life had not been good for years. I am sure that Aunt is very sad, but she sure is not going to talk to me or DH about her feelings; she is not that way at all. Do you have any suggestions? Thank you, RC Edited January 16, 2012 by RoughCollie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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