Catwoman Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 I'm not sure exactly how to phrase this, but does anyone else feel "different" from the other homeschoolers you've met in your area? We have always homeschooled (ds is now almost 12, so it has been a while,) yet in all these years, we haven't really clicked with many of the other hsers in our area. I'm not saying they weren't nice, because most of them were very pleasant. I'm talking about real friendships. Here's an example of what I mean: I know a few hs moms who are truly nice people, but if I want to hang around with them, I have to do things their way, and they never want to do anything I want to do. For instance, I'd like to go out for lunch or coffee or just to stroll around a mall with them from time to time, but they won't go. They don't eat out, don't like to shop, and don't drink coffee. I have said we could go wherever they wanted to go, but they don't believe in spending money on frivolous things like eating out, and even if I offer to pay, they make excuses not to go. I have to tell you that I don't particularly enjoy helping them weed a garden or hang around chatting while they feed the chickens, but I smile and do it and I don't complain. I don't think it would kill them to get out of the house every now and then, but I guess it's not my place to judge them. Another group of hsers I know is, again, a lovely group of women, but they are so incredibly Christian and church-oriented, that I don't really fit in with them, either. They all have lots of kids, which I think is very cool, but they clearly aren't comfortable with me having just one ds by choice. (I probably would have fared better if I'd lied and said I had some sort of medical reason why I was unable to give birth again, but I didn't want to do that, because it doesn't exactly seem like an honest way to start a new friendship.) At least those moms will go out for coffee, but most of the conversation revolves around how I should go to their church, which is uncomfortable for me. I'm fine with their religious beliefs, but it gets a little old for me when it's part of every single topic of conversation, so I don't fit in very well. I truly wish I lived in a place where there were tons of homeschoolers, so I could meet more different kinds of families, and my ds and I would have a better chance of making some friends. Where we are now, although there are homeschoolers in the general area, there are very few activities, and most of the families we know don't have kids anywhere near my ds's age. I don't really know what my point is here, but I guess I'm just wondering if I'm the only one who feels this way. I'm not particularly lonely or anything like that, but it would be nice to be friends with some other homeschoolers, so my ds could have friends and I would have some moms to do things with. Sorry if I sound whiny. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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