AlmiraGulch Posted January 3, 2012 Share Posted January 3, 2012 Someone (an adult) very close to me has betrayed my trust. This is someone I would consider one of my best friends, and who I would never, ever, in a million years have thought would do something like what has been done. I am hurt, embarrassed, sad and, as of this morning, very angry. "Gobsmacked" is the word that keeps running through my mind, along with a few expletives that are inappropriate for this board. I am, generally speaking, a very forgiving person. I have often said that I would hate to be judged wholly by my worst day, and that people truly can be sorry and penitent. I've witnessed it, and I've been there myself. For the most part, a single offense, for me, has never been too much to overcome (and I'm not talking about someone doing something to one of my kids or anything...that would be unforgivable). I'm having a really hard time embracing that this time. I don't know if I can get past this, and don't know if I should. Cutting off contact would be like the death of a close family member. My life as I know it on a day to day basis would be turned upside down. I don't want to overreact, but right now I can't even focus. For what it's worth, I just found out about this last night, so I'm probably still a bit in shock. And again, it's not that someone did something to one of my kids, and my fiancee didn't sleep with another woman (a couple of things that would be no brainers for me). It's just....really, really bad. How do I go about judging whether or not I should still have this person in my life? What is that process like? I absolutely cannot talk to anyone in my real life about this, so any words of wisdom are welcome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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