Pretty in Pink Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 (edited) ETA: I only have a moment to pop in right now, but I just wanted to say thanks for the hugs, advice, commiseration, and encouragment that you have all given me in this thread. It has been very uplifting. I really appreciate each and every one of you who took the time to respond to me either here or in a private message. Thank you so very much, ladies! Ugh. My family never visits me. Never. We lived just three hours away for three years and my sister visited twice. My mother and brother visited once and stayed less than 24 hours. I called them every other month to try to arrange meet ups at the half-way mark and even then it was like pulling teeth to get them to agree to meet for lunch (which I was footing the bill for, but I digress...) My brother is 29. He and his fiance are living in my mother's spare room (he's been living there for years; fiance moved in right after they started seeing one another). I can't visit them because they all smoke heavily indoors. I have a kid with asthma. I have invited my family numerous times over the years to visit us, even offering to purchase plane tickets. They always put me off. "Oh, I don't know if that's going to work out...we'll have to just play it by ear...etc." A few years ago my mother did agree to come for Christmas only to cancel on Christmas Eve. Anyway. My brother's wedding was set for May 2012. His fiance, whom I don't know well, asked me to be in the wedding party. I accepted. A few days ago I was talking to them (brother, fiance, and Mom -- they had me on speaker phone) and it was casually mentioned that the wedding date had been changed to 2013. We are moving to the west coast in June 2012. They live in Florida. When I reminded them of our coming move my brother just said, "Yeah, I know. Don't worry. We'll post lots of pics on Facebook." :001_huh: I said that my feelings were hurt, that I had wanted to be there. He just sort of blew it off and said that if I wanted to fly my family back for his wedding that I was welcome to. I got off the phone and cried. I sent him an email and told him again that my feelings were hurt, that they are the only family that I have and that we never see each other, that I am hurt by their refusal to visit, etc. I asked him why they won't visit me. So today his fiance posts a snarky status on FB about how someone she asked to be in the wedding is stressing her out, should she uninvite them from her wedding, blah blah blah. WTH? I emailed her and told her that if her comment was directed at me that she really should just uninvite me. Good grief. A little while later she deleted the post. I'm just hurt and needing to tell someone, I guess. They are the only family that I have, really, and they don't want to spend time with me for whatever reason. It really sucks. Edited December 29, 2011 by Pretty in Pink Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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