snickelfritz Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 By traditional dating, I just mean what I grew up with. :). Not courting. We don't know exactly what rules we will have. Group dates. Guy hangs around with family. Date at 16. We'll probably do a combo of those. My question is about verbiage with little kids. We don't tease dd (8) about having boyfriends. When she talks about friends liking certain boys, we also (try) not to shut the conversation down by saying she's too young to think about that. We want her to talk to us and if the kids are discussing it.... They will discuss it with us or without us. And I do remember people "having boyfriends" in the third grade, so I don't think this is new. It just meant they might pass notes, but that was about it. So, we want a "line" to use that says she can tell us anything, but she won't be calling boys or dating for a long time. Long, long, long time. Something that encourages her to be friends with them and play soccer with them, but also gets across that she is too young for the drama with boyfriends. The temptation has been to just say "You're too young for that" and end the conversation. That's not what we want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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