Jean in Newcastle Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 I have two sisters (and two brothers too but they are irrelevant in this discussion). Sister A has researched buying housekeeping services for our elderly parents and has floated the idea by all the siblings for providing this service for one year as our shared Christmas present. I don't know how much the others are contributing but I'm buying a little more than two months worth of housekeeping ($40). If we all put in about the same amount then I think it will cover the yearly fee. Now sister B has sent out a group e-mail saying that she had bought a music CD for $27 that she's going to give to my dad for his 90th birthday. She wants us all to chip in to buy the CD for him. :confused: The thing is, I'm already spending over $1000 to go out for this red letter birthday (which is also my dd's 10th birthday). And I've bought him a birthday gift. In one sense, chipping in $5 for her gift wouldn't kill me financially. But I"m a bit exasperated with being hit up for what seems like a stupid request. But I need perspective because there is bad history between sister B and myself. About 20 years ago (yes, it's been that long and it still affects me) she sat me down and told me about how she'd always hated me and was jealous of me. Then she told me that she expected me to pay her a fee for having boarded me at her house during a visit. We are now civil and there is no drama, but I do feel wary of her. So do I show her grace and chip in? She is not rolling in money by any means but depending on the priority she puts on something, she can always find the money. For example, they have enough to spend to go by plane to see their favorite baseball team play a couple of times a year and stuff like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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