DawnM Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 We tried this weekend to pay for some dear friends' dinner. We had intended to pay and DH and I both agreed that we would pay. They wouldn't let us. They threw money at us as they left and wouldn't let us pay. I need to go over to their house this week and give the husband his birthday gift. I ordered it last week but it didn't come in time. It should come today. Anyway, I want to find a way to pay for this dinner. Background: They are missionaries currently serving with their mission stateside in the home office. Would you include the cost of the food with the B-day card and just explain that you really wanted to pay for the meal? Or, since they are missionaries, would you just make a donation to their account through the mission? I would really rather give them the cash so they can spend it as they wish, but I don't want to be tacky or rude either. What would you do? Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 Hmmm. That's a tough one. I think, because they "threw money at you" (LOL) I'd go ahead and make a donation to their mission account. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 They clearly do not want you to pay for this dinner, and to continue to insist on repaying them will be rude. Just as you wanted to pay, so did they. It's okay to let them "win" this. I would also follow up the meal with a written thank you, especially because of the circumstances (but don't mention the circumstances!). The other option is terrific: Make a donation to their account through the mission. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 They clearly do not want you to pay for this dinner, and to continue to insist on repaying them will be rude. Just as you wanted to pay, so did they. It's okay to let them "win" this. I would also follow up the meal with a written thank you, especially because of the circumstances (but don't mention the circumstances!). The other option is terrific: Make a donation to their account through the mission. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXMomof4 Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 Give the cash to their mission account. I know with missionaries from our church they generally have an account for when they are home on furlough to do things like take friends out to dinner. Just give them that little extra and call it good! That's a little less support they'll have to have pledged! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 5, 2011 Author Share Posted December 5, 2011 They didn't pay for our portion, only theirs, so I don't think a thank you card is necessary. Dawn They clearly do not want you to pay for this dinner, and to continue to insist on repaying them will be rude. Just as you wanted to pay, so did they. It's okay to let them "win" this. I would also follow up the meal with a written thank you, especially because of the circumstances (but don't mention the circumstances!). The other option is terrific: Make a donation to their account through the mission. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 5, 2011 Author Share Posted December 5, 2011 Thanks everyone. I would actually give more to their ministry account, so that might be the best way anyway. I have several missionaries I plan to give $$ to this month to up our tax deduction for 2011's taxes. We may run into not being able to write off much in 2012 as we refinanced to a 3.37% home mortgage so our actual interest is going to be very low! Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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