Public school kids cry in class, too.

[ElizabethB]

This is from an activity I help teach with another lady. We are NOT the type of women that make children cry. In fact, we are kind of softies, actually. (Well, there is obviously some crying going on here, but it is not because we are being mean.)

 

As we had our 3rd crying incident, all boys, actually, I had to stop myself from laughing as the common refrain here when people talk about their children crying while homeschooling is, "Kids don't cry at school."

 

I just wanted to let everyone here know that 6 and 7 year old boys who go to public school do sometimes cry in a classroom environment, and they cry when something is a bit harder than they are used to. (Maybe they don't get challenged enough to cry in most schools? Or maybe they do cry at school, too, I have no idea.)

 

The other children do not comment or look shocked, and the children who cried have not been ostracized or lost friends over the crying.

Edited December 3, 2011 by ElizabethB

[renmew]

I teach second grade, and kids do cry. You're right, one reason is when they are being pushed out of their comfort zone academically speaking. The other reason is manipulative, just like any kid, when they want to get someone else in trouble or get out of doing something themselves. Once I've determined they are "okay", I tell them to put a stop to it and from then on I simply ignore.

 

I had one kid, new to our school this fall, cry for 25 minutes, getting louder and louder as time went on. He was outright sobbing, because I wouldn't let him go to the computer lab after he randomly filled in the answers in a reading test so he could leave with his group to the lab. I did not cave, he stopped immediately when it was time to eat lunch, and he hasn't shed a tear since.

 

He's 8, too old IMO for a tantrum like that.

[Lang Syne Boardie]

I've never believed such little children should be crying over school, whether at home or away.

 

One reason we homeschool is to keep our littlest children learning and progressing without tears and frustration.

[AndyJoy]

I dealt with plenty of crying 11-year-old boys and girls in private school, too! It wasn't necessarily for purely academic reasons, but they certainly do cry in front of other kids!

[VeteranMom]

My oldest ds cried when he was in public school (K-2nd grade). He is a perfectionist. Whenever he didn't immediately understand a new concept he would cry. He's learned to handle challenges much better since I brought him home.

[ElizabethB]

I teach second grade, and kids do cry.

 

I dealt with plenty of crying 11-year-old boys and girls in private school, too! It wasn't necessarily for purely academic reasons, but they certainly do cry in front of other kids!

 

My oldest ds cried when he was in public school (K-2nd grade). He is a perfectionist. Whenever he didn't immediately understand a new concept he would cry. He's learned to handle challenges much better since I brought him home.

 

Interesting, now I know. I don't remember kids crying in school, but then again, I don't specifically remember kids picking their noses, either...

 

I think a lot of people don't know this either, if I had a nickel for all the times I've seen and heard "kids don't cry in school," I would be rich.

 

I've never believed such little children should be crying over school, whether at home or away.

 

One reason we homeschool is to keep our littlest children learning and progressing without tears and frustration.

 

Some children cry more easily than others.

 

I used to think that more homeschool kids cry than kids in school because there is only family around to see, but now I don't know.

 

If I made math easy enough for my daughter that she never cried, she would still be learning 1st grade math. I slow things down and gently help her work through things when she cries or is frustrated, and she hasn't cried for a month or two, but when she hits decimals I'm thinking she might cry a bit. She is breezing through geometry and will be a month older when we get to decimals, so I'm hoping not, but it's a possibility. I have accurately predicted the last few crying spots in math. (And have tried different strategies to prevent the anticipated crying, to no avail.)

[sarahbobeara]

This is from an activity I help teach with another lady. We are NOT the type of women that make children cry. In fact, we are kind of softies, actually. (Well, there is obviously some crying going on here, but it is not because we are being mean.)

 

As we had our 3rd crying incident, all boys, actually, I had to stop myself from laughing as the common refrain here when people talk about their children crying while homeschooling is, "Kids don't cry at school."

 

I just wanted to let everyone here know that 6 and 7 year old boys who go to public school do sometimes cry in a classroom environment, and they cry when something is a bit harder than they are used to. (Maybe they don't get challenged enough to cry in most schools? Or maybe they do cry at school, too, I have no idea.)

 

The other children do not comment or look shocked, and the children who cried have not been ostracized or lost friends over the crying.

 

Thank you for posting this, I really needed to see it.

 

Today was one of those days...I introduced cursive to my son (just big & little loops today) and it brought him to quiet tears. It took him about 7 or 8 minutes to collect himself. He eventually made his loops and hopefully Monday will be better :001_smile:

[PhotoGal]

Ds used to cry in private school (K & 1st). He would cry when he didn't win at a game or contest. I think he also cried sometimes due to not knowing something right away (hard to get the whole story sometimes as to what happened). Actually, I think he cries a lot less in homeschool than he did at school. I think it is because he is less stressed and gets more sleep now.

[Joyofsixreboot]

But now I've lost my constant refrain " if you were in school you couldn't cry!". :lol:

[RegularMom]

I remember crying myself in school. Usually it was over a misunderstanding between a teacher and me. But sometimes it was because the work was hard or frustrating. Sometimes it was because the teacher was mean.

 

It's hard to watch my own children cry over school work. It kinda takes away from that whole "joyous learning" ideal that I started out with. But being able to remember my own tears helps me not freak out too much when I see theirs. What I do when they cry is call a five-minute break to go swing on the swings or jump on the trampoline. It helps.

[MSNative]

Interesting, now I know. I don't remember kids crying in school, but then again, I don't specifically remember kids picking their noses, either...

 

I think a lot of people don't know this either, if I had a nickel for all the times I've seen and heard "kids don't cry in school," I would be rich.

 

 

 

Some children cry more easily than others.

 

I used to think that more homeschool kids cry than kids in school because there is only family around to see, but now I don't know.

 

If I made math easy enough for my daughter that she never cried, she would still be learning 1st grade math. I slow things down and gently help her work through things when she cries or is frustrated, and she hasn't cried for a month or two, but when she hits decimals I'm thinking she might cry a bit. She is breezing through geometry and will be a month older when we get to decimals, so I'm hoping not, but it's a possibility. I have accurately predicted the last few crying spots in math. (And have tried different strategies to prevent the anticipated crying, to no avail.)

 

Great post. I cracked up at the bolded. :)

[K&Rs Mom]

This really is helpful to hear. I've been considering sending my 9yo, for just that reason: hopefully she wouldn't give another teacher the attitude she gives me (perfectionist, can't stand to encounter anything she doesn't know). The idea that she would act just the same in a classroom has so far stopped that plan. :glare:

[Wabi Sabi]

I have a good friend who teaches in a mixed aged class at a lovely little private school in town. I recall her telling me about her track record in making 10-12 year old boys cry- not intentionally, she just said that there must be something (hormones?) about that age that makes kids, especially the boys, very sensitive and highly emotional.

[mommaduck]

This is from an activity I help teach with another lady. We are NOT the type of women that make children cry. In fact, we are kind of softies, actually. (Well, there is obviously some crying going on here, but it is not because we are being mean.)

 

As we had our 3rd crying incident, all boys, actually, I had to stop myself from laughing as the common refrain here when people talk about their children crying while homeschooling is, "Kids don't cry at school."

 

I just wanted to let everyone here know that 6 and 7 year old boys who go to public school do sometimes cry in a classroom environment, and they cry when something is a bit harder than they are used to. (Maybe they don't get challenged enough to cry in most schools? Or maybe they do cry at school, too, I have no idea.)

 

The other children do not comment or look shocked, and the children who cried have not been ostracized or lost friends over the crying.

I cried in my fifth grade classroom...yep, ps kids do cry.

[AndyJoy]

The last time I cried in class I was almost 18 :tongue_smilie:. It was during my first AP Calculus test and I panicked and feared that I would get my first less-than-an-A-grade in that course :lol:. My poor 23-year-old first-year male teacher had no idea what to do! He kept asking if I was ok and I just kept telling him "Yes, I'm ok. I'm fine. Just go." I was crying silently as I continued working, but tears kept splashing on the test.