Bensmom Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 My husband's grandma died yesterday. She was 84 and went peacefully. My father in law is a pastor and would have done the service, but he lives in AK and just had surgery and cannot travel to OK. He called last night and asked me to officiate the service. I have a B.S. in theology and do pulpit supply, but I do not do funerals! I haven't even attended that many funerals. I told him I would be honored, but I am horrified. I am going to talk with my pastor today for advice. I want to honor my husband's grandma, but I am quite lost on how to go about the service. I didn't know her that well either, so I don't have any nice stories to share about her. Please pray for my husband's family in their time of grief, and pray that I will find the words to honor her life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 My husband's grandma died yesterday. She was 84 and went peacefully. My father in law is a pastor and would have done the service, but he lives in AK and just had surgery and cannot travel to OK. He called last night and asked me to officiate the service. I have a B.S. in theology and do pulpit supply, but I do not do funerals! I haven't even attended that many funerals. I told him I would be honored, but I am horrified. I am going to talk with my pastor today for advice. I want to honor my husband's grandma, but I am quite lost on how to go about the service. I didn't know her that well either, so I don't have any nice stories to share about her. Please pray for my husband's family in their time of grief, and pray that I will find the words to honor her life. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: The only thing I can add, as far as nice stories to share, start asking closer family members to share their stories and those stories are the ones you can tell during the service. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 If you can preach, you can preach at a funeral. ;) I'll pray for you. Family can share stories with you for info, you know the gospel and the need to grieve. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beth in OH Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 Family can share stories with you for info, you know the gospel and the need to grieve. :grouphug: :iagree: I recently went to a beautiful funeral where the pastor had never met the deceased--in fact she lived in Africa! He was very open that he was recounting stories that the family had shared with him while spending the recent days remembering the woman. Instead of the service feeling detached, it was very intimate. We live in a world where even extended family relationships often don't have a lot of daily connectedness. It's ok. Don't feel guilty that you didn't know her better. A funeral is about honoring memories. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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