LauraGB Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Often we hear that if one has a few drinks with dinner or after, and they do it often, they are alcoholics, or even useless alcoholics. This is not necessarily so. There is a vast difference between that person and the alcoholic. Or maybe not. Generally, from my experience with numerous family members and friends, an alcoholic almost always has some tragedy or ultra sensitivity they are trying to soothe. They are the ones who feel things just a little more than other people, they are the ones who just can't quite "get it", they are the ones who have had something terrible happen that they just haven't been able to deal with. An alcoholic has trouble coping with day to day life because of these troubles, and they begin diluting life's edgy feeling first thing upon waking. Alcohol is a way for these people to do what so many others do with a more acceptable "prescription" from a doctor (who, of course, knows how to treat these sorts of problems). Is alcoholism a disease? Of course. But it doesn't start out as one, any more than a dependency on rx drugs start out as one. It starts out as an easily recognizable symptom of something else...but because alcohol has been so demonized, the alcohol itself becomes the "treatable" problem, even though in the beginning it is far from that, and the real problem gets buried (just like the drinker wants it to). And by then, they have no desire to come back from the numbness. Today my uncle passed away from the effects of alcoholism - he was not the first to do so in my family, nor will he be the last. And I hear so many people say how sad it is that he "drank himself to death". But they all forget that he could have taken a different road and used any manner of prescribed drugs, prescribed by a "professional" in the area of psychological disorders big and small, and when his liver ceased to work because of those meds, no one would be making any sort of negative connection. I just really want to share this. So many, from both sides of my family, have died from the effects of alcoholism, and I'm quite certain several more will before my life is over. The problem is that all of these people have a similar trait of not being able to deal with things - an uber-sensitivity to things, trauma with which they were never really equipped to deal. Before you judge someone who drinks from sun up to sun down, consider why they might do this - who would actually "want" to live like that? Thanks for letting me vent a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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