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My 6yo had one of those days. She didn't know anything, couldn't answer the simplest questions, kept going back to hide in her bedroom and read any time I turned my back, and cried at the drop of a hat. (And oh, so many hats were dropped...)

 

My two primary theories: (1) She's about to come down with whatever virus her little brother has. (He has a cough and a runny nose.) (2) She stayed up way too late reading last night.

 

She's going to bed early tonight with no reading-in-bed time, because that will help with either one of my theories and would also be an appropriate response to my secondary theory: (3) She's just seeing if she can get away with not doing school.

 

But I'm wondering: on a day like this, do you ever just give up and drop academics entirely? Would it have been better to just send her to bed with a stack of cheesy series novels and take my little guy outside? On the one hand, school was just frustrating both of us and accomplishing nothing - and yet, on the other hand, I don't want whining and playing dumb to be a get-out-of-school-free card.

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Yes here, too. We have some days where dd just doesn't know what number comes after 10 (or some other similar silliness). Sometimes marshmallows can turn her into a genius! (Like SWB's use of chocolate chips with her kids.) Other times I just have to let her go off to draw--her favorite activity. She'll usually listen to me read for a bit while she draws. She's particularly inconsolable if she's about to come down with a cold. At those times I just let it all go.

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Oh yes. I think of that as a benefit of homeschooling. I don't do it often, but please, we ALL need a mental health day every now and then. And little ones (and their mamas) need them more than anyone.

 

However, I am not above giving some made up reason for quitting. I would never say something like I was quitting or it wasn't worth doing lessons for the day etc. I might say something like "Oh, good thing I had a really light school day planned, because we are all done!" That way, I didn't have to worry about my elder son replicating whatever behavior to try to get out of school. He was that kind of 6 year old. As an 11 year old he is quite dedicated, but he was a trickster at 6.

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Yep! In fact, I should do it more often LOL.

 

I don't know, we also have days where we are in a groove and can cover more than I had planned, so I think it is okay to pack it in on a day when it is just not going well. Rather than escalating and getting super frustrated, I think sometimes it is better to bag it or change things around (do a bunch of read alouds in lieu of other work, for example).

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Oh yes. I think of that as a benefit of homeschooling. I don't do it often, but please, we ALL need a mental health day every now and then. And little ones (and their mamas) need them more than anyone.

 

However, I am not above giving some made up reason for quitting. I would never say something like I was quitting or it wasn't worth doing lessons for the day etc. I might say something like "Oh, good thing I had a really light school day planned, because we are all done!" That way, I didn't have to worry about my elder son replicating whatever behavior to try to get out of school. He was that kind of 6 year old. As an 11 year old he is quite dedicated, but he was a trickster at 6.

 

redsquirrel has a point; I have had to throw in the towel many times---but I do not let the kids know that I am doing so. I usually have made some comment how today is a lighter schedule day, and I *know* that they can do this ____. Less is being required of them, but they do not know it. School still happened, and they did not dictate the whole day by their behavior (even if it wasn't intentional).

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