Jean in Newcastle Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 that means that they are paying, right? She's been invited to miniature golf and perhaps a movie afterwards. I have absolutely no trouble paying but I only have $4.00 in cash on hand. I'm assuming that they would pay? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joannqn Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 I think that is customary, but I would ask rather than assume. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myeightkiddies Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 (edited) If invited, typically that means they will pay for her. However, it depends on the invitation. If friends told her that she can come with them and hang out or such, she may need to pay. If it was a parent or friend who doesn't normally invite just to tag-a-long, they will most likely pay for her. Send the $4.00 just in case. If they are coming to pick her up, walk out to the car and tell them that you only have $4.00 because you didn't have time to go to the bank/store or wherever. Ask if it will be enough. Typically they will say that it is no problem; their treat. Or they may say that it should be enough or they will make up the difference. Edited November 5, 2011 by Myeightkiddies My grammar was all over the place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 If invited, typically that means they will pay for her. However, it depends on the invitation. If it was friends telling her she can come with them and hang out or such, she may need to pay. If it was parents or friends who don't normally do that, I believe they will. Send the $4.00 just in case. If they are coming to pick her up then walk out to the car and tell them that you only have $4.00 because you didn't have time to go to the bank/store or wherever and will it be enough? Typically they will say that it is no problem; their treat. Or they may say that it should be enough or they will make up the difference. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clarkacademy Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 No, I wouldn't think that. I would always assume to pay for my child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pqr Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 I would assume that the parent is responsible for all costs. If you are wrong then no harm done, but.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 I always assume that I am paying - just to be safe. I agree with the others though - just be honest. You only have $4. I bet they'll tell you not to worry about it. Interesting though. Whenever we ask a friend of our kids' to do something, we assume we're paying! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 I always send money with my kids, just in case. But, at the same time, we will usually pay for friends we have invited along. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 I always send money with my kids, just in case. But, at the same time, we will usually pay for friends we have invited along. This is what we do too. We usually get the money back that we sent with our child, so just tell them you only have 4 dollars at home and I bet they will be fine with it. We only invite kids with us if we have money to pay for their admission. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 We always send money, so that dd can learn to do the "dance": DD takes money out and tries to pay. Df's mother says "Don't be silly, I'm paying for you." Dd says "No, really, my mom sent money for me." Df's mother says "Your money is no good with me." Dd puts money in her pocket and thanks her several times. :D But honestly, unless it was someone I barely knew, I would just tell them that they caught you off guard with no cash and offer to pay them back later. I'm sure they will say that they are paying and not to worry about it. that will save your dd from a potentially awkward situation if they didn't intend to pay. Yes, they should pay if they invited her, but not everyone knows that anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 5, 2011 Author Share Posted November 5, 2011 Thank you, everyone. I sent dd with the $4 and told them. They said "Don't worry about it." I sort of figured they would pay since it had started out as a simple backyard playdate and they kept adding to it. That's why I wasn't prepared to begin with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LidiyaDawn Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 I always send money with my kids, just in case. But, at the same time, we will usually pay for friends we have invited along. Same here. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted November 5, 2011 Share Posted November 5, 2011 We always pay for when we invite people... but we always sent money with ours "just in case". Now that they're older, they always have a cc with them too, which helps in a pinch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margo out of lurking Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 I always send money with my kids, just in case. But, at the same time, we will usually pay for friends we have invited along. Almost always, anyway. And when I send them with money, I expect them to pay their way and not come home with all of it! When we invite other kids, I assume we will pay for them, unless I say, hey, it costs $10, would he like to come? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2squared Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 I think this might depend on where you live. Where we live now, if you know a paid activity is planned, you pay for your child. Birthday parties excluded, of course. I think this is because the kids prefer going to things together rather than meeting up at the event. Often we will take kids to activities and their parents will be there with their other kids anyway. It's kinda weird to drop your kid off at someone else's house and you both end up at the same place, but such is life where we live. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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