moving and "in between" and holidays

[HollyDay]

We moved this summer. We have joined a homeschool group and become active at a church. Dc are participating in sports and other activities. We are getting settled.

 

But, we have no friendships yet. That takes time. There are very nice, kind, interesting people here. But, we are still the new guys feeling a bit lonely.

 

Life goes on where we used to live and staying in touch is getting a bit more difficult. A few folks have been wonderful, making real efforts to return calls, send emails, keep in touch. But, we are not there and "a part" of things.

 

So, with the holidays approaching, how can I make this situation better? The house we have now is quite a bit smaller than the old one. Entertaining in it will be difficult. I've thought about having folks over for desert and games. Popcorn and a movie night maybe.

 

Any other suggestions??

[HSMWB]

Good luck - I don't really have any advice. We have moved recently and I am finding it difficult this time around to connect and make friends with people.

[HollyDay]

it is difficult. But, I think with the holidays coming, we are feeling sort of "lost in the shuffle". Folks at the former place, are making plans that (of course) do not involve us. Folks here do not seem to think of including us. We are still "the new guys". It does take time, I'm realistic about that.

[simka2]

We went thru this last year. Honestly, I just decided to make the holidays as special as we could as a family. This year feels much better, even though we have moved into a new house I still have connections.

:grouphug: sorry I am not much help.

[Amira]

We've spent the holidays in new places often. Like simka said, we have a good time with just our family. We've had some really good times, and for me, it makes everything less stressful when we don't have so much socializing to do. I think your idea of inviting some people over a few times is a great idea, especially if you do it in November. I also think you could find some families who are new and feeling like you do and maybe get together with them. We've done that a few times for Thanksgiving and had a great time.

[Harriet Vane]

We're right there with you. We just moved and are the new kids in town. We feel disconnected with everyone, though people here have been nice and very welcoming. In my case, though, I am fairly antisocial and plus I hate the holidays, so it's fine with me to stay in and focus on my own family. I decided this year to watch a few of the old, black and white Christmas classics with the kids. Of course my kids will invite friends over to play as they want to, but that's really enough for me.

[northcoast]

:grouphug:

I could have written your post except we moved to here last December. It is getting a little better with time.

 

One way a relationship may develop is offering to help someone who needs help. One friend, new to town, told me she heard someone at her new church say she was going to strip wallpaper and was sort of dreading it. My friend offered to go over and help even though she didn't know the woman. Well, a wonderful friendship developed and who would have thought it would have started over a not so fun task!

 

I also agree with the others about focusing on your family. This is for a season. This has been a time for us to grow closer together as a family.

 

By all means, entertain if you feel so inclined. It's not my cup of tea but I'm learning to do it more. Maybe just invite one family over for dinner or (just dessert) at a time. And it might be best to wait until after the new year when schedules are less hectic for others.

 

Blessings!