fairfarmhand Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 My 13 yo, almost 14 yo dd spent the last 7 days at her Grandma's. The past week has been the most peaceful, stress free week I have had in a LONG time. I knew teens are stressful and dramatic, but until this week, I had NO idea how she's impacted the entire atmosphere of the house. Three other kids here, under ten, and it has been just fine. No temper tantrums, sullen silences, barely any bickering, and the bathroom has been SPOTLESS the entire week. (and I feel REALLLY guilty about having any of these thoughts) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hsbaby Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 I have a 14 yo dd as well. And I feel the same way when she stays with my mom....even if it's just for the night! Don't feel guilty....they are just at that very difficult to get along with, slob-like, moody age:) Mine's newest talent is selective hearing. Yelling upstairs that I need here to do something, that's its time to eat, etc. no longer works. I have to actually walk upstairs to her room. And I KNOW she hears me:glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4everHis Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Just to ease some of your mama guilt, I've found that when ANY one of my kids is gone it's more peaceful. Doesn't matter if it's the most laid back one or the 'challenging' one. Although when it's the more challegening one even the kids notice :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PentecostalMom Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 I was both relieved and sad when ds left for college. We had had a few challenging months before he left. He was ready to go, and we were ready for him to learn that mama isn't always going to be doing his laundry. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2denj Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Phew!! I thought that I was the only one!! :D I have a 14 yr old girl who I love very,very much!! However, she is LOUD, messy and is ALWAYS right!!:tongue_smilie:I guess this is the definition of a teenage girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Cornelia Snook Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Sigh. I have four and a half years until I officially have a teenager to raise. The time will go too fast. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
higginszoo Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 I've gotten to the point where I unapologetically enjoy the break when I send my teen and/or tweens away for a day or week. They probably need the break, too, as things tend to always go so much more smoothly when they come back (at least for a day or two). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 I read this to dh and he laughed. Our 14dd is so much the same except she is our youngest. This weekend she was terrible on Friday when we headed out for a weekend trip. If I had thought and planned ahead, she might have ended up staying home. Friday night she went to sleep in the hotel room at 10pm and slept until 11:30 AM---13 1/2 hours. She was MUCH more pleasant after that. Just a sign that for us, she needs MUCH more sleep. Hoping that helps the attitude here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 If you're able to use that rest and relaxation to be in a better mothering place with your dd, then I think you should feel zero guilt! It will have served a purpose and hopefully given both of you a break so you can have a fresh start (even if it only lasts a couple of days... she is still 13 after all). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 I understand. Sigh. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsJewelsRae Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Dh is going to my parents house 4 hrs away for 2 days on a business related trip and I got him to take ds along. :blush: I told him it would be so good for ds to spend one on one time with him, and it will- but I can't say I won't enjoy it a little bit too, though I miss him already! But he's the noisy one and the instigator of most spats among the children. Plus dd is sick, so I don't have to hs for the next 2 days either! :D I feel a little guilty, but I love him like crazy, wouldn't trade him for the world and I miss him, so I'm not that horrible a mother, right? Besides, ds was jumping for joy at the chance to go with his Dad, just the 2 of them, he is with me all the time, it'll be good for him to get away from us too. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in TX Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 My 13 yo, almost 14 yo dd spent the last 7 days at her Grandma's. The past week has been the most peaceful, stress free week I have had in a LONG time. I knew teens are stressful and dramatic, but until this week, I had NO idea how she's impacted the entire atmosphere of the house. Three other kids here, under ten, and it has been just fine. No temper tantrums, sullen silences, barely any bickering, and the bathroom has been SPOTLESS the entire week. (and I feel REALLLY guilty about having any of these thoughts) I could have written this post about my dd now 16. It's been like this since she was 13. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 thanks for all the sympathy folks. She's home now. Here's hoping that re-entry isn't too bad!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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