Rose in BC Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 At the beginning of May in 1996 my husband and I took a cruise from Acapulco to Vancouver with my parents. We had no children and after years (8) of infertility and trying we were going to map out different plans for our lives. Alot changed in the week of our cruise. We had docked in San Diego mid-trip and I decided we should leave the ship to phone home where my nephew was dog sitting our basset hounds (our pseudo-children). Towards the end of the conversation my nephew says "oh yeah, someone named so and so is trying to get ahold of you". My knees began to shake. That some one was the worker at the adoption agency we had registered with two years prior. I hung up the phone to tell my husband and we agreed it was probably a formality call -- you know, checking to see if our info. was current, etc. So I called from the docks in San Diego. That call changed our lives forever. That day we were told by the worker that a young couple (teenagers not seeing each other any more) had selected us to adopt their, as of yet unborn child. Would we be able to meet them on May 14th in Vancouver. We live 400 km as the crow flies, 1500 driving kms away from Vancouver. Our cruise shipped docked in Vancouver May 13th and we were flying home May 15th. We had a one day lay over in Vancouver May 14th. We are Christians and we don't believe in luck . . . God's providence shone brightly in this experience. All the events unfolded in ways we could never have planned. Needless to say the rest of the trip was a right off. We didn't have much info. and we didn't know that they wouldn't change their minds. We were in a constant state of anticipation . . . what if they did choose us. What if they didn't choose us? May 15th arrived and we met this couple at the adoption agency. They were so young but had some incredible questions for us. (Of course, we felt like we were going to die. We were so desperate we did not want to make a "mistake" answering questions in a way that would make them not like us.) After our meeting we went home where we had to wait. The baby's due date was June 7th. They would call when she was born and when they made the final decision. It was a crazy, emotional time. Maybe we would become parents. Maybe not. On June 3rd I was sitting at my desk at work when the agency called to say that the baby had been born May 28th and that we should come pick it up June 7th. The birth mother wanted to phone us herself that night to tell us the sex. Well my co-workers, who knew nothing, thought I was dying because my legs were shaking so hard and I could barely breath. Our dream was unfolding. At 5 p.m. the phone rang at our house. "Hello, this is "birthmom". I want to tell you, you have a baby girl." That was a Monday evening. Friday evening we met at the agency with the birthmom and her family and the birth dad and his mom and they handed her our precious gift. And life has never been the same. My dad cried the day we brought her home and within that year my dad died of leukemia (not diagnosed until a few months after the birth of our daughter). He got to see me become a mom and got to meet our bundle of joy. Today she is 12. (When my son turns 12 next month I will continue the story on how his adoption is related to our daughter's adoption.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
E_Edgerton Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 What a wonderful story...your story! You have made my day...Happy birthday to your DD and today is kind of your Mother's day too...Congrats.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TraceyS/FL Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 You made me cry (in a good way). Give her an extra hug mom. ::hug:: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jugglin'5 Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 What a wonderful story! :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A.J. at J.A. Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 What a beautiful story and tribute! Thanks so much for sharing...I'm going to go hug my little guys! Angela Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RhondaM. Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Thanks for sharing your story. We adopted a little girl too so I love adoption stories. You have a wonderful one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Part-Time Homeschooler Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Wow -- I can't wait to hear your son's story! You are truly blessed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MountainViewMom Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Thanks for sharing your story. As one who was infertile for 6 years, I appreciate it so much and look forward to reading the next chapter! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie in AR Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 What a beautiful story, Rose! It still amazes me when God has every last detail worked out. What a testimony of his love for you and your family. Happy Birthday to your dd! :party::party::party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Alfred Academy Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 That is truly and amazing story! Thanks so much for sharing it with all of us. Can't wait to read about your son's adoption. Oh, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your DD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 what a beautiful story. I can't wait to hear your son's story. I have plans to adopt 2 children one day (planning to adopt from Haiti) but that is still a few years off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 What a special story -- I'm so happy you were twice blessed. Happy tears here! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andie Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 WOW! What a fantastic story. Happy, happy birthday to BOTH of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhonda in TX Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 You brought me to tears. Congratulations to your newly-12 year old daughter. :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emmy Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 This is an amazing story - I'm not sure I can wait till next month to read more! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jodi-FL Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 thank you for sharing, and Happy Birthday! I have a dd turning 12 in a few weeks. what a precious age. jodi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basketmaker Amy Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Thanks for sharing your special story. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rich with Kids Posted May 28, 2008 Share Posted May 28, 2008 Stop it! That was beautiful! Thank you for sharing this wonderful story. Happy Birthday to your dd and God bless your family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alice Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Beautiful story. I am in tears. Thanks so much for sharing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigitte Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 What a joyful story. Thank you for sharing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cricket1178 Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 And I'm anxious for the "rest of the story";) I have a 12yodd, too. She is such a blessing to me. I'm still wiping the tears from my eyes for all of you; the birthmother, her family, the birthfather, his family, and for you and your dh and family. We serve a very BIG God! Happy birthday to your daughter, mom.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepy Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 What a beautiful story, Rose. Thank you for sharing that, and happy birthday to your precious daughter :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leah Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 This is such a wonderful story! Thank you so much for taking the time to share this with us. I feel so blessed to have read this today. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazelt"nut" Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 We are trying to adopt from China and have gotten caught in the very long wait that was quite unexpected. Hearing stories like yours gives me even greater hope and my heart truly soars when I hear the happiness that adoption brings. Sheryl in GA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 How wonderful! (And you have to change your siggy line, too!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pata Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 What a great story, thank you so much for sharing. Isn't God good! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Such a beautiful, loving story, Rose. Thank you for sharing it with us. Happy birthday to your daughter, and good wishes to you all on this anniversary of such a joyous occasion! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Tears here. Thanks for sharing this lovely story. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 What an amazing story and a wonderful miracle for you and your husband!!! :party: Happy Birthday to your dd!!! I can't wait for Part 2 of the story! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 You made me cry!! What a wonderful story!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Oh my goodness! You write beautifully - but, of course, you have a beautiful story to tell!!! I am in tears. My dh loved your story as well. I am really looking forward to part 2. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missplacedalaskan Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 What a beautiful story! I can't wait to read more of your testimony of God's love! Happy Birthday to your DD! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 What a lovely story. On the other side of the Atlantic, on around this day, I was meeting my husband at a coffee shop in the City of London to inform him that, after eight years of infertility, and without any medical intervention, I was pregnant. Calvin was born in December. Best wishes Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose in BC Posted May 29, 2008 Author Share Posted May 29, 2008 It always amazes me how many people are touched by infertility and by adoption and I can completely empathize with the sheer magnitude of both of these issues. It's a marathon at times!! Anyway, our celebrations are over today and I am touched by the many responses to our story. We had a lovely day. I'm very emotional because I see the move from young childhood. Where has the time gone!! I have to say, however, in many ways I am really enjoying this age too (most days :glare:). Parenting is journey. For one month I am the mom of a 12 yr old, and 11 yr old and a 10 yr old. June 28th my son turns 12 and the celebrations continue. And yes, I'd better change my signature line. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readwithem Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. And happy birthday to your dd! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 nt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in the Kootenays Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 And congratulations to you too Laura. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jumping In Puddles Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 I cried too! I never cry over stories on forums but that is such a sweet story. Happy Birthday to your girl! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisawa Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Oh that brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful story! So sweet.... God is so good... At the beginning of May in 1996 my husband and I took a cruise from Acapulco to Vancouver with my parents. We had no children and after years (8) of infertility and trying we were going to map out different plans for our lives. Alot changed in the week of our cruise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Thank you. It was quite a ride. DH didn't really believe he had a child until several months after Calvin was born. He kept forgetting, because the idea was so foreign to him. He had believed himself unable to have children for over ten years by then. Hobbes took a while coming too, and I had the satisfaction of calling up the fertility doctor, on whose long waiting list we were, to ask him to cancel the appointment because I was pregnant again. Perfect. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose in BC Posted May 29, 2008 Author Share Posted May 29, 2008 Sometimes the situation seems so hopeless and then a miracle happens. I still marvel at the fact that I have three children. I sit at the dining room table and recount the many years my dh and I sat it alone. Even after my daughter was born we figured she would be an only child becuase we had adopted her through a private agency and knew we couldn't afford that again. Then our boys were added to the crew. Life is good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Thank you for sharing your beautiful memory. :001_smile: As an adoptive mom myself it brings back all those wonderful memories of my kid's birth stories. I am pregnancy challenged myself. But I have 5 beautiful kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 You made me cry as well, and I needed it. :) My own sister has suffered the loss of a baby born pre-term and last week another miscarriage. She has been doing the infertility thing (via doctor help) for almost 4 years. It is very difficult and painful. Thank-you for your encouraging story. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 Add me to the list that cried over this story! It's beautiful and very touching! We serve and amazing God! I'm so glad you shared! Happy Birthday to your dd! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose in BC Posted May 29, 2008 Author Share Posted May 29, 2008 I'm 43. I've had a hysterectomy. I have three beautiful children. And sometimes I still grieve over the loss of my fertility. It's such a loss of control over an area of life that so many people are able to take for granted. And still, as life unfolds, you treasure the miracles that do happen. It takes time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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