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Mrs Mungo Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Practice. Family meals are a good place to start. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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regentrude Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Practice and high expectations. Frequent exposure to situation where they must sit quietly for a period of time. I had to leave a theatre play once, when my 3 y/o started acting up. Other than that, I found that if they were expected to behave, they did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athena1277 Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 My kids sit still for a 1.5 hour worship service twice every Sunday like angels. Ask them to sit in a chair for 5 minutes at the doctor's office or some other public place? Does. not. happen.:glare: If you find the answer, let me know. :bigear: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I have those kids, too!! :D For us, at least, they have started to grow out of it. We practiced and practiced, and repeated rules over and over and over. It never made a lick of difference until they just got old enough to understand and had the ability to control their wiggles. Our kids have never been rude, but they have certainly been spirited. As they've gotten older (you know, the ripe old ages of 7 & 5 ;)) it has gotten loads better. Just keep repeating what you expect and giving them opportunities to practice it where they won't get in trouble for not doing it right :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Don't worry, your kids can't be "those kids". "Those kids" have "those parents" who let them do those same things through the.whole.event. and don't seem to notice or care what "those kids" are doing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 How well do you give the hairy eyeball? Do they know previous to attending what will be expected of them? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greenvneck Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 :rofl::rofl::rofl: Wait until they are teenagers? My littles are *never* still. EVER. I am all :bigear:, hoping to learn the secret on this thread! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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catz Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I think some kid's energy levels just go up when they're in a new setting with a bunch of people. My kids are actually well behaved when they know what to expect, but they get "excited", noisy, and squirrelly in big groups, especially with new people. We're actually almost grown out of this phase. I wonder if it's an extroverted trait? My kids have both developed to be pretty extroverted and they're both high energy. I do have high expectations and we do practice. Some situations just seem to be harder than others for my particular breed of kid. Hang in there! My oldest has no issues with this anymore and my younger is only occasionally embarrassing to take in public. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twoforjoy Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Maybe this will make you feel better: I took DS and the new baby to a pool party today at a friend's house. DS would NOT STOP turning the hose on and off and then, when he finally got it that he wasn't allowed to do that, bugging me and the hostess about turning the water back on. Then when he realized that his pestering wasn't going to get the water turned back on, he threw a bucket of water on me and my friend who had us over! So I said he was leaving, and he refused to get out of the pool. I had to call my DH to come drag him out of the pool and carry him home. He was yelling and splashing and being a brat the whole time I was waiting (luckily we just live down the street, so it only took DH five minutes to get there). I was mortified. I most certainly have "that kid." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margo out of lurking Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I think what you did was quite brilliant. For the next several times you go out, remind them that you expect them to sit like they did "that one day at home." I bet they'll catch on very quickly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorCalMom Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Yes, we went over the rules before we went into the building. We also went over consequences, which is why we left. eta: Apparently my eyeball isn't hairy enough. :D Exactly what I would have done. They have to understand the consequences & consistency is very important. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 eta: Apparently my eyeball isn't hairy enough. :D They may have drops for that. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meriwether Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 are "those" kids. You know, the ones you look at and give thanks that they're not yours. The ones that you're convinced have been raised by wild animals. They're almost never in a position where they have to be both still and quiet. I took them to a community event today and left almost immediately with my head hung low and completely embarrassed. Dd8 was fine. I'm convinced that dd5 does not have a "quiet voice", and has apparently never been taught to sit in a chair correctly. :001_huh: She was whining about where she had to sit, tipping the chair over, scooting it back and forth, etc... And the 2 year old, forget it. I marched them to the car, completely lost it, drove them home, and placed them in 3 chairs (dd8 asked to participate, go figure). I turned on some classical music and made them sit both still and quiet for 15 minutes. About 10 minutes in, even ds2 figured it out and stopped getting up. So, give me your secrets. How do you get your dc to sit so still and nicely? :bigear: FWIW, I think you handled the situation well - leaving when they wouldn't sit still. At least I think so, since I've done the same in that situation. :tongue_smilie: I've even brought them home and made them sit on chairs. I also tell the kids that Mommy doesn't have much energy and if I have to "deal with them" in addition to organizing an outing, getting ready to go, driving, etc. then it is just too much work for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 If your dd8 was fine, then I wouldn't get too down on yourself. I think strangers look at the majority of 1-6 yos and think, "thank goodness they're not mine" or possibly, "that's why I don't have children." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Maybe this will make you feel better: I took DS and the new baby to a pool party today at a friend's house. DS would NOT STOP turning the hose on and off and then, when he finally got it that he wasn't allowed to do that, bugging me and the hostess about turning the water back on. Then when he realized that his pestering wasn't going to get the water turned back on, he threw a bucket of water on me and my friend who had us over! So I said he was leaving, and he refused to get out of the pool. I had to call my DH to come drag him out of the pool and carry him home. He was yelling and splashing and being a brat the whole time I was waiting (luckily we just live down the street, so it only took DH five minutes to get there). I was mortified. I most certainly have "that kid." I think MOST kids do *something* that really jumps over the line once or twice. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silliness7 Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 are "those" kids. You know, the ones you look at and give thanks that they're not yours. The ones that you're convinced have been raised by wild animals. They're almost never in a position where they have to be both still and quiet. I took them to a community event today and left almost immediately with my head hung low and completely embarrassed. Dd8 was fine. I'm convinced that dd5 does not have a "quiet voice", and has apparently never been taught to sit in a chair correctly. :001_huh: She was whining about where she had to sit, tipping the chair over, scooting it back and forth, etc... And the 2 year old, forget it. I marched them to the car, completely lost it, drove them home, and placed them in 3 chairs (dd8 asked to participate, go figure). I turned on some classical music and made them sit both still and quiet for 15 minutes. About 10 minutes in, even ds2 figured it out and stopped getting up. So, give me your secrets. How do you get your dc to sit so still and nicely? :bigear: Maybe your 2yo and my 2yo are long lost twins. We had the doctor visit from he!!. He was running around like a crazy maniac. Would not cooperate. Just would.not.be.still. Or quiet. The doctor actually told him to use his inside voice. Umm....he doesn't really know what that means. He's been raised by wild animals. Feel free to talk about my poor parenting when we leave. :) I asked doc if it was too early to diagnose him with ADHD, half kidding. She said some children are anxious in new environments and act out due to their anxiety. O.K. He's anxious. I'll go with that. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I think you did exactly the right thing. I'm convinced that the reason I can take my kids *anywhere* now (and have been able to for a number of years) is because when they were small, I *did* scoop them up and carry them out of places when they couldn't behave. And, yes, as others have said, practice and high expectations. Practice, high expectations, consistency, and follow-through. And, of course, praise them when they do behave -- let them know how happy and proud you are that you *can* take them places... It's embarrassing to carry a small one out of somewhere because they're behaving inappropriately. ... It's *fantastic* to be able to go sit somewhere with your very-slightly-older ones and know they're prepared to behave in an appropriate manner no matter where you go. It's worth the investment. It makes taking them places so much more fun. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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