lynn Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 I am very careful with my dd(2.5yearold) hair. It's past her shoulders and I am careful to condition her hair so it will comb easily and I am very gentle when I try to put up her hair. She starts crying right away or pulls the pony tail holder out immediately. Is this her being independent, sensitive scalp or beginnings of sensory issues of which I need to watch for other signs? I have those ponytail holders that are like scruchies but small so there is no pulling from there and I don't make it tight on her head. I am just curious. She will wear a bow on an alligator clip or one of those metal barretts that fold in place. Just curious about the head thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ticklbee Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 I am no expert but it seems to me that if she had sensory issues she wouldn't wear anything in her hair. But I could be wrong about that. Maybe she's just trying to assert a bit of control. Usually around this age they start to want to be much more independent and do things on their own. Maybe just give her the option of how to wear her hair. Hold a scrunchie & a barrette out to her and ask her which she would rather wear that day. It's worth a shot! HTH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 I'm voting that it's her being two-and-a-half. I'd just keep brushing her hair (gently, but don't worry if she complains a little) and putting it up -- but if she hates pony tail holders and doesn't mind barrettes, skip the pony tails for now. She'll come around with time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracey in TX Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 Girls and their hair...it's a life long love-hate relationship:tongue_smilie: My girls have always been quirky with what items they allow in their hair. It's seldom the same on any given day. Let DD have some input on her hair style. Maybe short is the way to go for awhile, or braided? Good luck and know the battle will only be yours as long as you do her hair! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kim in ks Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 I've always told my girls, if they won't wear pony tails, or keep their hair out of their face.. short is the answer! If they're tender-headed short hair would be easier, if its a control issue, show her whose boss! :) lol my 11 yod couldn't get her very thick black long hair clean, week after week, I had to have her re-shampoo her hair, I gave her 3 + Months, to do a better job, or get it cut shorter! I cut 4 inches off it last week! and it is much less of a struggle for both of us! just my 2 cents kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie in Oh Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 have gone through the no hair thingies at about that age. They just fuss about it. My 4 older girls, 8, 6, 4, and 3 will all wear their hair up, but would not between two and three. When they are old enough to be reasonable -- around 3.5-- I till them it is going to hurt till they get used to the pulling and they have to deal with it if they want pig tails. They get used to it. My youngest is just starting to get hair, so we will be starting all over again. I agree -- it is a love hate realationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sena Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 I say she's being independant. My daughter used to be quite opiniated about her hair too. We kept hers bobbed off above her shoulders until the last year, now it is a little longer and she's much more agreeable about letting me fix it. I loved the bob too, she could literally roll out of bed looking great and the compliments she'd get! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kuovonne Posted May 19, 2008 Share Posted May 19, 2008 It could be a scalp thing. With a barrette or clip, a small portion of the hair is pulled back, but most of the hair hangs naturally. However, with a ponytail, all the hair is pulled back so that the hair strands point up instead of down. Sometimes when I put my hair in a ponytail when I haven't for a long, long time, the change in the hair direction feels weird / uncomfortable for a while until I get used to it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted May 19, 2008 Share Posted May 19, 2008 I vote for tender scalp. My dd is the same way. She's been tender-headed since birth. She can also do those barrettes that clip on themselves, but many kinds of ponytail holders hurt her head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
love2read Posted May 19, 2008 Share Posted May 19, 2008 Lots of girls and many long hair situations over the past 20 years in our home. After the first few had problems like you describe, and keeping it clean, and out of their face, and out of their food, and..... We now keep hair just above the shoulder until they can care for it themselves. The ones who wouldn't do the barrettes or pony tail had it it even a little bit longer. It does get worse as they get older because they want to do it "their way" too. Really, life is too short to be fussing with a child's hair. It just seems like yesterday that my oldest dd wanted to let her bangs grow out--what a battle that ended up being. Now she's an old college student. Do what's easy at this point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissel Posted May 19, 2008 Share Posted May 19, 2008 Well, my DD5 has only recently started allowing me to put a ponytail in her hair. Until then, all she would wear was a barrette pulling the hair from the sides to the top. DD2.5 is the same. Occasionally she'll allow me to do pigtails or a ponytail, but it's pretty rare. You can kind of see a pic of her hair (and more :lol:) here: http://talloaks.wordpress.com/2008/02/28/almost-wordless-wednesday/ Would something like that be an option for her? If you use a good barrette, it stays back nicely and doesn't pull her scalp. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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