If you could ask a random group of men you'd never meet one question...

[Amy in Orlando]

And, where in the world do men get the idea that women know where everything is all the time, and that they also know what the schedule is, and that they also know what medicine to take (whether or not symptoms have been shared), and that therefore they themselves need to know none of these things? Ever.

 

:lol:You mean my uterus ISN'T a tracking device?

[mo2]

clwcain, great answers. Thank you for sharing. Are there any questions you have on what it's like to be a woman? ;)

[Guest]

:lol:You mean my uterus ISN'T a tracking device?

 

:smilielol5:

[Heidi @ Mt Hope]

Fascinating answers. Thanks for sharing and nice to have you around!

[Fourmother]

I know men have a blind spot when it comes to the laundry hamper. Does it extend to the trash can, too? Why does dh hand me his used napkins, cups, gum wrappers, etc., and then look surprised when I won't take them? What do I look like, his personal garbage receptacle? :ack2:

[Rosie_0801]

I have never gotten why it hurts so much to get hit in the balls. I mean, I believe it, but what kind of pain makes you fall to the ground? Is it a sharp pain? Can they compare it to something we might feel? :confused:

 

Haven't you ever had a kid kick you in the ovary? It is Not Pleasant, and there is a whole lot more padding between kid's foot and your ovary, than a scrotum provides.

Oh, and the reason your baby boys can play it rough with their goods is because their testes haven't dropped yet. God/ Mother Nature in their wisdom did what all sensible parents do, and put the fragile stuff up out of reach!!

:)

Rosie

[Rosie_0801]

I often wonder this...How can they separate themselves and not see this young girl being so abused. And the classic question....what if that were YOUR daughter? Can they really not see that that is a person? Somebody's daughter or sister? :confused:

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As far as I can tell, guys don't think of porn stars as women. They think of them as pixels. I think it's only the young ones who think "normal" women enjoy that stuff. Those who've partnered up learn quickly...

Rosie

[sweetbaby]

Why can't you understand what I'm saying to you? LOL

[Laura Corin]

"Where's the (insert item)? Oh, there it is" necessary? Why can't you just look for something and only ask when reasonable possibilities are exhausted?

 

Laura

[KidsHappen]

Thanks so much for your helpful and well thought out answers. I sent you some rep for this one. Hopefully some of the other ladies will as well. Appreciate the contributions.

[Carol in Cal.]

:lol:You mean my uterus ISN'T a tracking device?

 

I actually use this phrase at times, when very pressed. As in, "Honey, my uterine tracking device is inoperable at this time. I'm guessing that it will turn on again once I am finished teaching DD her math." (I only say this after minimum 3 interruptions, none of them sensible.)

[clwcain]

Wow. Thanks for all the positive feedback. I was worried I was putting a foot wrong when I first posted the offer of answers.

 

Well, here goes round 2, and come up with some more questions. This is fun!

 

I honestly didn't think it would be possible to not recognize the 'symptoms' related to a women's cycle (and I'm not trying to be cheeky).

 

• I’ve only met one man, a particularly effeminate homosexual, who could “tell†with any genuine accuracy. Most guys, even with years of observation, just aren’t sensitive to the signs.

 

I'd like to know why men can run their workplaces and problem solve in employment situations, but are unable to do the same in a domestic environment.

 

• My wife says the answer is “prolactinâ€. I suspect that, while that might be part of it, the chaos is subtly different and it is a “design featureâ€. We’re really good, in general, at managing some types of stress and not others. *shrug* Sorry I can’t be of more help on that one.

 

I don't know how I'd answer if someone asked what it was like to be a woman, but you know? How do they know how to be guys?

 

• We don’t. Generally we fake it, mimicking the behavior of men we respect and/or idolize. Gradually we become habituated to those patterns of “manly†behavior.
  
• This is why virtue is so critical in the formation of young men, something the old Jesuits who formed me understood. They realized they didn’t have to be perfect, they just had to model perfection. I took that lesson to heart in the rearing of my (still very young) boys.
  
• This is also why so much of popular culture is genuinely corrosive. The message I received, loud and clear, growing up in the 80s and 90s was that you could be a “f@g†or a barbarian. Those were the only two choices. By the grace of God, and the agency of pagan philosophy and some venerable Jesuits, I was corrected in this…misapprehension. I would like to think they helped turn me into the gentleman I am today.
  
• Desire to not hurt my wife (while we were dating) helped in a big way. She was virtuous and a desire on my part to avoid despoiling such virtue led me to adapt from dissolution to at least the outward appearance of virtue. In time, that habituated me to a taste for virtue and what started as fear of hurting or losing her morphed into Fear of the Lord. Thus the beginning of Wisdom…
  
• Did I even answer your question? Or did I just go running down a rabbit trail?

 

Why do they see other people's clutter and it's an issue, but then clutter up every surface, AS IT IS CLEARED!

And, where in the world do men get the idea that women know where everything is all the time, and that they also know what the schedule is, and that they also know what medicine to take (whether or not symptoms have been shared), and that therefore they themselves need to know none of these things? Ever.

 

• Habituation. Most likely, they’ve had someone clean up after them and know where all things are their whole life. Some one else’s clutter is disturbing, but your own (speaking as a man) makes perfect sense and is not, by definition, clutter.

 

Are there any questions you have on what it's like to be a woman?

 

• Not that I can think of, and I’ve been pondering for a few days. But if I think of any, I’ll know where to post them. :D

 

Does it extend to the trash can, too? Why does dh hand me his used napkins, cups, gum wrappers, etc., and then look surprised when I won't take them? What do I look like, his personal garbage receptacle?

 

• I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest that this is habituation either a mother a grandmother or a sister always took care of these things and this is the expected way the world works. Retrain gently if it really bothers you.

 

Where's the (insert item)? Oh, there it is" necessary? Why can't you just look for something and only ask when reasonable possibilities are exhausted?

 

• Speaking only for myself, I do this all the time. It’s necessary because it is part of how I think my way through the Unsortable Puzzle of a room full of clutter I didn’t create. See the above response concerning clutter.

As always, HTH & YMMV.:D

[Kelli in TN]

I would like to know why men watch TV with the remote in their hand. I would like to know why they watch 5 minutes of one thing and then 5 minutes of another and then 5 minutes of something else.

[clwcain]

I would like to know why men watch TV with the remote in their hand. I would like to know why they watch 5 minutes of one thing and then 5 minutes of another and then 5 minutes of something else.

No clue. I tend to watch a program that interests me, start to finish. I will flip back and forth if I find two or more programs, because I hate commercials.

 

But in the last 5 years we've had television for only 14 months. We don't miss it, and I really don't know why most men watch TV at all. I mean, golf? I can forgive the playing of golf (a good walk spoiled, IMHO), but to watch it? :confused:

[abbeyej]

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I've never wanted to ask men anything, as I really don't think they're all that complex...

 

Lol, I'm afraid that was my response to the initial question as well. It's not that I think they're "simplistic" -- just not all that difficult to figure out. Individuals, sure, but as a species? Way simpler than us girls. ;)

[clwcain]

I guess answers to the Unaskable Questions just can't compete with Obama love/hate. :rolleyes: