CarolfromIL Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 (edited) Jenny our Pastors daughter is being ordained as minister of word and sacrament at the church. Jenny grew up in the church and I have known her since she was little. Now that she is going off to her own church, how do I refer to her when we speak? She is only 25 while I am 47. Would I call her Pastor O'Brien now? Rev. Jennifer or maybe just Miss Jenny? What's appropriate? I was so nervous seeing her last week I made a small curtsey like I normally do to her father. Thanks for any suggestions. Edited April 17, 2011 by CarolfromIL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 What denomination is this? I think that influences how you address them. We call our priests by their first names, most of the time..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abigail4476 Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 I would call her "Jenny" as you always have, unless she asks you to do otherwise. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Random Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 I would address her the same way I addressed other ministers. If she corrects you, and asks you call her something less formal, then you can do that. I think it's better to be more formal than less formal, when you're not sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 I would address her the same way I addressed other ministers. If she corrects you, and asks you call her something less formal, then you can do that. I think it's better to be more formal than less formal, when you're not sure. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 Jenny our Pastors daughter is being ordained as minister of wordand sacrament at the church. Jenny grew up in the church and I have known her since she was little. Now that she is going off to her own church, how do I refer to her when we speak? She is only 25 while I am 47. Would I call her Pastor O'Brien now? Rev. Jennifer or maybe just Miss Jenny? What's appropriate? I was so nervous seeing her last week I made a small curtsey like I normally do to her father. Thanks for any suggestions. I would say to her: "I am so proud our your accomplishment, and would like to know how you would prefer for us in the congregation to address you....." This allows her the opportunity to say what she prefers, not only for the congregation in general, but it also gives her the chance to say "for people who have known me since I was little, Jenny is still fine also". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 I would just smilingly ask her, "Is it appropriate to continue to call you Jenny, or should I use another title now?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeannie in NJ Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 every church I have ever been to (even ones I was just visiting) the pastors are called Paster first name. I never thought that some churchs might not do that. So call you call her Pastor Jenny? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indigomama Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 Every church I've ever been to we've called our pastors by their first names only. I suppose you'd address her the way you do any other pastor in your congregation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom4him Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 I would say to her: "I am so proud our your accomplishment, and would like to know how you would prefer for us in the congregation to address you....." This allows her the opportunity to say what she prefers, not only for the congregation in general, but it also gives her the chance to say "for people who have known me since I was little, Jenny is still fine also". :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mytwomonkeys Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 every church we've ever attended, the pastors simply go by their first name. at our current church, it is the same thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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