Retired Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 Pastor's wife volunteered my stuff to another family. They were having $ problems. I should of just said no but its one of those situations were its is just expected that in christian fellowship you don't mind sharing. I have been trying since september to get my stuff back. She says they are not finished. They need a little more time etc., etc. They should of been done back last summer. They must never do any school work. I call for the I don't know how many times. I get we need it a little longer. Oh the last time I talk to her she actually was talking like I would give her another year worth of curriculum. I have made myself as clear and possible without being ugly. She just doesn't get it. I just feel bad because dh works hard for us to buy our stuff. I really need the curriculum this summer for my 2nd ds. I am now trying to figure out what to do. Oh! I am so having a hard time with how angry she makes me.. Can I SCREAMMMM. That feels better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.griff Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 The Pastor's Wife keeps telling you they need more time? I would be so irate, and NO, I would not lend curriculum. If it were something I was DONE with, I would consider giving it to them- but no way would I loan it if I knew I needed it later. I would just have to put my foot down, tell them it is YOUR property, and you DEMAND that it be returned to you today- YOU need it for YOUR child, whom you bought it for in the first place. Tell them about Book Samaritan if they need freebies. Ugh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angela in TN Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 Since you've tried calling numerous times and not getting anywhere I might go talk to the Pastor's wife who volunteered you in the first place to maybe gently bring it up with this lady. She's had it long enough and you need it, nothing ugly or mean about that just the facts. Hope it gets worked out soon.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greta Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 Yikes, that is bad. I would be upset if someone else promised MY materials to another family to begin with, but you seem much more gracious about that part of it than I fear I would have been. I have loaned things out without any trouble a few times. Twice I have had trouble. The thing is, in both cases, I KNEW before I loaned it that it would be a problem, and I told myself to just shut up and be nice and do it anyway. Next time, I'm going to listen to my instincts. In one case, I did get the book back, just took much longer than I specified. In the other case, I am still waiting -- it was supposed to be for a couple weeks and it has been almost a year!!!!! I'm pretty convinced she has lost them and just doesn't want to admit it to me. I'm really sorry you're dealing with this hassle. It is frustrating. I hope you get your materials back soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmgconner Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 Don't be mad, just be honest. The fact that she isn't finished with it is NOT your problem. Dear So and So, I'm so glad that I was able to lend you XYZ curriculum. I need it back by THIS date. And then give specifics for picking it up - will you please leave it at the church office/may I stop by your home and pick it up at 2:00/meeting at a coffeehouse/etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 Don't be mad, just be honest. The fact that she isn't finished with it is NOT your problem. Dear So and So, I'm so glad that I was able to lend you XYZ curriculum. I need it back by THIS date. And then give specifics for picking it up - will you please leave it at the church office/may I stop by your home and pick it up at 2:00/meeting at a coffeehouse/etc. I agree with this. And I don't lend curriculum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 that I get it back. Same is true for clothes, books, etc. That way it's no big deal if it gets lost, mutilated, ruined, stained, or otherwise not returned. So, yes, I'd lend it if I didn't need it, didn't think I'd use it again, or didn't care if it came back. And No, I'd never lend anything I needed, wanted or thought we would probably be using again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 Yikes- This is why I hate lending curriculum and don't do it. It can turn out to be such a hassle getting back and can be awkward, even if it is a good friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alyce Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 In that situation I would have realized I was just giving it to them. Personally I think it was wrong of your Pastors wife to have done what she did but I'd definitley be involving her again in an effort to get them back. The other thing I'd do now is just be firm that No they can't have more time and I will be by Fri at 3:00pm to pick it up. You're just going to have to be firm in setting limits on them. I'll be praying for you because I know you're in a very tough position. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovemyboys Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 Since you've tried calling numerous times and not getting anywhere I might go talk to the Pastor's wife who volunteered you in the first place to maybe gently bring it up with this lady. She's had it long enough and you need it, nothing ugly or mean about that just the facts. Hope it gets worked out soon.. This is what I was thinking. The pastor's wife volunteered you to help this other mom, now it's time for her to help you out. I would just let her know that you've been trying to get it, that you need it for your dc, and ask how she'd like to help you handle it. Surely she'll feel compelled to get involved since she *started* it! Good luck. I lend things pretty easily but I guess I trust my instincts on who I'm lending to....that, and I keep a list of things loaned and borrowed.;) Sure hope this gets solved well and easily once pastor's wife is aware of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nancypants Posted May 7, 2008 Share Posted May 7, 2008 Nope. I give when I don't need it anymore but I would never lend curriculum out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracey in TX Posted May 8, 2008 Share Posted May 8, 2008 Cafelatte, What have you decided to do about the curriculum? Hopefully your pastor's wife will act as a liaison to retrieve your books. It stinks that you're forced to demand your goods back. Best wishes, Tracey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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