Gamom3 Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 We just sent out ds graduation invitations-- to immediate family and a couple of neighbors. MIL points out(really making a big deal out of it) to both SIL and to Dh that I had a typo(instead of attained, it was attainted. NO ONE else has even noticed the typo..not even US! MIL is one that loves putting others down especially "me". I am very irritated about it. She did not say anything nice about them, we had put 4 pictures of ds on the card..age 7months, 8yrs, 18yrs and his prom picture. The only thing she could do is talk about the typo!!:angry: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in NH Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 I hate to say it, but it would get to me too. And, it would bother me that it got to me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 We just sent out ds graduation invitations-- to immediate family and a couple of neighbors. MIL points out(really making a big deal out of it) to both SIL and to Dh that I had a typo(instead of attained, it was attainted. NO ONE else has even noticed the typo..not even US! MIL is one that loves putting others down especially "me". I am very irritated about it. She did not say anything nice about them, we had put 4 pictures of ds on the card..age 7months, 8yrs, 18yrs and his prom picture. The only thing she could do is talk about the typo!!:angry: That was very very rude of her. The rule of thumb I use for pointing out mistakes is I only do it if is something that can be changed or MUST be corrected. For instance, if you had put the wrong time or date down for his graduation--yes I would tell you. If a woman has a run in her nylons--no I would not tell (unless she has not yet left her house and can still change) If her blouse is unbuttoned--yes tell her. What your MIL did...rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 I agree, very rude. But I have a funny story..... We once received a wedding invitation to a very posh wedding. We were not planning to go, so we never even noticed that the invitation did not tell what time the ceremony was to begin. A few days later a postcard arrived. It said something like Wedding Dress $$ Wedding Rings $$$ Forgetting to tell your invited guests what time to be there, Priceless! And then it listed the time at the bottom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 I agree, very rude. But I have a funny story..... We once received a wedding invitation to a very posh wedding. We were not planning to go, so we never even noticed that the invitation did not tell what time the ceremony was to begin. A few days later a postcard arrived. It said something like Wedding Dress $$ Wedding Rings $$$ Forgetting to tell your invited guests what time to be there, Priceless! And then it listed the time at the bottom. Oh that IS Priceless! At the risk of getting bad rep for hijacking, I'll add my funny. The post card we got from the Bride and her family cancelling the wedding. It was the 2nd time this Groom had backed out on her although the first time was BEFORE the invites were sent. Anyway, the postcard was very curt and said 'The wedding of girl and boy will not take place.' My dh said, 'the only word missing from that post card is 'EVER'.' LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lynn Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 Life is to short let out a good scream if you need to and move on.:001_smile: People like that don't need to take a second of your time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in the Kootenays Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 Yup, it would get to me. And I'd do my best to never ever mention it - after having a big vent somewhere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readwithem Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 sorry that happened - love the idea of his photos on the invite! Consider the source. Then enjoy the celebration. Be proud of your son. Be proud of YOU!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 I vote you change the time and forget to tell her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted April 30, 2008 Share Posted April 30, 2008 I second this option!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted May 1, 2008 Share Posted May 1, 2008 It's annoying, and rude, but chances are everyone else knows she is obnoxious about these things and are just rolling their eyes about the whole thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted May 1, 2008 Share Posted May 1, 2008 Yeah, it's annoying. She's probably a generally negative person, so this isn't anything really new, and she's not going to change. I wouldn't start cutting her out of my life, arranging for her to miss the graduation, etc, because she has a negative personality. Annoying as it is, I would just assume that she didn't really choose to be negative, that she just is, and she can't change it. I know. I know. She actually can change it to some extent. But she is your DH's mother, and I would choose not to focus on a negative view of this. I would try to laugh and make it a funny memory, even though it would, of course, bother me in the short term. I love that you used a progression of photos at different ages. I bet it was a darling announcement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamom3 Posted May 1, 2008 Author Share Posted May 1, 2008 I think my anger comes from 19yrs of dealing with her and then she is in a round about way messing up our sons day...to point this out and make a big deal of it...(I as a parent want it to be a perfect day!) I am still trying to calm down, I have a knot in my back(literally!) from this getting to me. I would love to post the card so everyone can see, we are so proud of him! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamom3 Posted May 1, 2008 Author Share Posted May 1, 2008 I vote you change the time and forget to tell her. but she lives with my oldest SIL, so she will be coming with her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OhM Posted May 1, 2008 Share Posted May 1, 2008 I attended a big "meating" today, according to the title slide on the powerpoint presentation! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in Orlando Posted May 1, 2008 Share Posted May 1, 2008 I vote let it drop - after you send her a little tiny sticker with the corrected word on it that she can paste over her original invitation. Let it all be about your son and his accomplishments. I have a mean mil, too, and I know how much this kind of stupid stuff can hurt and gnaw away at your nerves. ((())) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cricket1178 Posted May 1, 2008 Share Posted May 1, 2008 Did we marry brothers?:D Sounds like something my MIL would do.;) I bet everyone who knows her feels the same way you do. Best to drop it imho. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted May 1, 2008 Share Posted May 1, 2008 Hoi, boy! Do I have *issues* surrounding my oldest child's HS graduation party attendance! Do not get me going. I am am easy-going person...but oh! There are bad vibes about me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiCO Posted May 1, 2008 Share Posted May 1, 2008 MIL points out(really making a big deal out of it) to both SIL and to Dh that I had a typo(instead of attained, it was attainted. NO ONE else has even noticed the typo..not even US! Well, that is so obviously a type-o and not a matter of bad grammar, mispelling, or misuse of a word. I didn't even know attainted was an actual word until I looked it up. I probaly would have noticed, and I might have told you about it after the party- just as a "hey, did anyone even notice this?" kind of thing. I would be interested in knowing the context of your invitation- could be a really amusing type-o.;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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