mommyto3boys2girls Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 My baby is 1 1/2 now and I thank God every day for being so generous to me when He gave her to me. I still wonder if He was trying to tell me something when I had my uterine rupture during my section, or if it was just my body saying "I've had enough". My life, my daughters and my uterus were all saved. Regardless, this chapter is coming to a close and it breaks my heart. My husband is going in for a vasectomy consult next week and then will have the procedure done next month. I just joined a yahoo group for women who have had uterine ruptures some who have gone on to have healthy babies, some who have had to lay down their babies :( I would have loved to have more children. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysparkler Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clarkacademy Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 You have no idea where your path will lead in 20 years! You may have more babies, you may end up being an adoptive mom, a foster mom or your path could take you some other place you never thought you would go. Please don't be sad for when one door closes another will open. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 I'm sorry. My uterus ruptured during my last delivery. Like you, my life, my son's and my uterus were all saved and I have six beautiful healthy children to be thankful for...but I still grieved for a time. I love having babies, I love being pregnant, but I am accepting what I believe to be His will and really enjoying the children I have (and appreciating that He let me stay to parent them!) :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 :grouphug: My uterus hasn't ruptured (yet), but due to various health concerns, we're done after this one also. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KristinaBreece Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. I developed HELPP syndrome very quickly at the end of my pregnancy with DD (now 2) and have been told that it's not an option for me to have any more either. We had big plans for a houseful, but are blessed to have the 2 we have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cougarmom4 Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 :grouphug: It's hard to have the "having-babies" stage come to an end. It really is. I'm sorry you are having to face this. Just a few weeks ago I had to have a hysterectomy...after hemorraghing (sp?!?) so much that I almost died. So I am also going through a bit of this grieving process--the realization that this stage in my life is over is so hard sometimes. I think I will be one who always looks at babies and feels a longing in my heart. However, something that has helped me recently is trying to look at things in the future--look ahead to what good things may come to you/your family in future stages as the kids get older. Finding ways to cherish each day with my family and be happy with right where we are...not looking back and wishing for what used to be or even what could have been. Finding ways to be grateful for each day and each moment we have to be together. I hope you can find peace in your heart! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C_l_e_0..Q_c Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 Hugs to you. I've had a uterine rupture, followed by a hysterectomy. Definitely no more babies for me... At the hysterectomy, they found my uterus was in really bad shape. Thankfully I never did get pregnant, it would have killed me. Your other kids need you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kristinannie Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear that. I know you are really sad. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 :grouphug: You can be thankful for what is and still grieve what could have been. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyto3boys2girls Posted February 9, 2011 Author Share Posted February 9, 2011 I'm so thankful for what He has given me. I just really am going to miss the whole thing...seeing those 2 pink lines, hearing the first heartbeat, the first ultrasound, the little kicks from within, then holding and smelling that little newborn and all those wonderful things. Its really hard for me right now as my DH's appt gets closer and closer each day. I'm so sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamom Posted February 9, 2011 Share Posted February 9, 2011 :grouphug: Sorry, that you're feeling so sad. I really really really wish I could have five.I would feel very, very, very thankful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted February 9, 2011 Share Posted February 9, 2011 It gets better with time. Not to sound flippant, but at least you know why. For me the not knowing why has always been hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted February 9, 2011 Share Posted February 9, 2011 :grouphug: You can be thankful for what is and still grieve what could have been. :iagree: Also, :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngelBee Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 I'm so thankful for what He has given me. I just really am going to miss the whole thing...seeing those 2 pink lines, hearing the first heartbeat, the first ultrasound, the little kicks from within, then holding and smelling that little newborn and all those wonderful things. Its really hard for me right now as my DH's appt gets closer and closer each day. I'm so sad. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratia271 Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 I didn't have a uterine rupture, but I had a very bad pregnancy with #2, and I asked dh to get a vasectomy, because I knew I'd want more babies, but I couldn't go through another pregnancy like that. Now, many friends are having babies around me, just when I'm realizing that my two are not so little anymore, and I'm going through that grieving process a little, too. I would love to have another baby, but I know it's not in the plans. For other reasons, I don't think adoption is in the cards for us, either. So, lots of :grouphug: and sympathy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue G in PA Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 I am so sorry. I know how difficult it is knowing you won't have any more babies. :grouphug: My uterus hasn't ruptured but after 7 children my dh has said no more. He is adament. And I am grieving. So many new, young mothers in my church and so many new babies. It is very hard to get through. I will be praying for your peace in this circumstance and God's comfort. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tabrett Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 I'm so thankful for what He has given me. I just really am going to miss the whole thing...seeing those 2 pink lines, hearing the first heartbeat, the first ultrasound, the little kicks from within, then holding and smelling that little newborn and all those wonderful things. Its really hard for me right now as my DH's appt gets closer and closer each day. I'm so sad. This is when you start dreaming about all the beautiful grandbabies you are going to have!!!!! You will get to love, love, love them and still get to sleep at night!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I also cannot have any more babies and often find the sadness overwhelming. As others have said, being actively thankful and joyful in my children helps. Praying that you will find peace and revel in the lovely children that God has given you and your DH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyto3boys2girls Posted February 10, 2011 Author Share Posted February 10, 2011 Thank you to each and every one of you for the support. I really needed it. I am looking forward to the grand babies a LLLOOONNNGGG time from now. But when the time comes, it will be magical. Today is a better day then when I wrote this thread. I figure its going to be that way. Some days are good, some are not so good. Tis life, right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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