Nakia Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 Ladies, I do not know what to do with my 10.5 year old. She has always been such an easy and compliant child. Make no mistake about it; she is as strong willed as they come and she has this temper...well, well suffice it to say, she gets it honest. But she has always been smart and thoughtful and well-behaved. She has never been naughty or whiny. She's mature for her age. She knows what she wants, and she goes for it, and it's mostly been such a joy to be her momma. I've never had to worry about her doing silly impulsive kid things. Lately, though, omg. She has the worst attitude. Her anger has gone out the roof. She is so mad at me every day for one thing or another. She thinks she is treated unfairly. She cries at the drop of a hat, mostly from anger, and she has NEVER been a crier. She screams, yells, slams her door (and has now consequently, again, lost the privilege of shutting her door). She thinks her sisters are treated differently than she is. Well, they are. They are younger than her, and they are different than her. We had a long talk today about how each child is treated differently; not better or worse, just differently because they are different!! I know her little sisters annoy her. I was the oldest, but honestly, I adore(d) my little brothers. It's almost like she hates her sisters at times, especially Emma. And of course, Emma is sneaky and manipulative (and also kind and caring), and Cora tears up everything in her path (but is also joyful and funny), and I am dealing with those undesirable behaviors as well. But Anna thinks no one gets disciplined except for her. I have prayed with and for her. I have talked to her. I have cried to myself for being a horrible mother because I lose my temper with her when she starts yelling, and I yell too. I don't know what to do. I try to model good behavior, but I'm far from perfect. I have talked to her about what to do when she feels angry. We have role played. Just a bit ago, she got furious with me because I asked her not to turn on the TV since we are getting ready to eat. She was fuming (this was after an ENTIRE day of attitude and anger from her). I calmly told her to take a shower immediately. She did so with a lot of stomping around first, and then when she got out, she was teary and hugged me and apologized. She always shows remorse and apologizes. She says she feels out of control when she gets angry. I know she has a beautiful and amazing personality. We just need to get a handle on this. Is this hormones??? If so, I know it will only get worse! :( I'm afraid of ruining our relationship. During my teens is the time when my mother and I fought so much, and our relationship burned to ashes. I'm scared. I don't want Anna to be an angry person who thinks she is being shown injustice in everything. What in the world am I doing wrong? Can anyone offer me any advice? Is there always something to work through with your children? I am working with Emma on not being a whiny manipulative girl who bats her eyes to get her way. I am trying to stop Cora from taking over the world. :lol: I'm tired. At least right now, I can :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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