teachermom2834 Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 My 12 yo ds is having surgery tomorrow. He has a benign tumor in his neck that has to be removed. Originally I managed to arrange childcare so that both dh and I could go. Now we have been hit with a snowstorm. I can't get my kids where they were going to stay so I have to stay home with them. Dh can make it to the hospital so he will take my ds and I will stay with the other dc. I'm so sad to not be there with him. The whole thing is so stressful and now I can't even be there. I feel awful. Now to make things worse, because of the conditions, my dh and ds are going to leave this afternoon and stay with my parents closer to the hospital to make sure they can get there in the morning. It just feels awful to pack up my ds now and not see him until tomorrow night after he has gone through all this. I know it is just a minor procedure and other people have much bigger problems. It just really stinks to not be able to be there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dayle in Guatemala Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 :grouphug:I would have a hard time with this situation too. I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug:I would have a very hard time with this, but would be so glad his father could be with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 :grouphug: That's awful. Our mama feelings are very strong! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blakereese Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 :grouphug: I totally understand how you feel, I would feel the same. This darn weather gets in the way of things, doesn't it? I'm glad that at least your DH can be there, that would make me feel better. I'm sorry, though. I know it isn't how you planned it to be. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodhaven Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I'm so sorry that you won't be able to be with him! How frustrating that he won't even be home tonight or tomorrow morning for you to give him a hug. I feel so bad for you! But I'm glad one of you (your dh) can be with him! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Dominion Heather Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I'm sorry. My son has had to have several eye surgeries and I know how stressed you all are. (((hug))) It is great that his dad will be there. That should help to distract him from any tension he is feeling. If your son has any sort of hand held video game, he should take it with him. We don't, but ds borrowed one from his buddy before the last two surgeries when he was 10 and it helped give him something to do while he was waiting for such a long time. If he doesn't, don't worry about it. There is usually a tv to watch and stuff to look at and the nurses do a good job of making sure the kids are doing ok. He and dad will be fine. You are right... this will be hardest on you, but it will all be done soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hsbaby Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Oh, I'm so sorry:(. Just remember, this kind of stuff is always harder on us moms than on our kiddos He will have the support of his dad! Hang in there...and:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arstephia Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I understand! I would definitely want to be there too, but I am glad your DH is with him. I am sure everything will go well and he'll be glad to see you when he comes home.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
treestarfae Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I hope everything goes well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I didn't read the other posts, but I would be very inclined to pack up all of my children and for all of us to go to the hospital for the procedure. Is it ideal? Of course not, but it would make my momma's heart feel so much better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 :grouphug:I would have a hard time with this situation too. I'm sorry. :grouphug: :iagree::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 :grouphug: I'm sorry. That has to be difficult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2myboys Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 :grouphug: It is so hard on a mommy's heart to not be there. Praying for a good result for him, but also for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I didn't read the other posts, but I would be very inclined to pack up all of my children and for all of us to go to the hospital for the procedure. Is it ideal? Of course not, but it would make my momma's heart feel so much better! This is what I'd be inclined to do - if at all possible. Maybe your parents could watch the three others while you, your husband, and your son go to the hospital, or you could bring the 2 yo if it would be too much for them. (Ideally the 2yo wouldn't go to the hospital.) It would be so hard not to be there. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I'm sorry you are having to miss being there. I know that has to be difficult! :grouphug: it's nice, though, that he and your dh can get a head start to be sure there aren't further difficulties which would delay things. I will keep all of you in my prayers, especially your son for a safe surgical procedure and recovery, so he can get back home to be with you!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 :grouphug: I'm sorry, I know that's hard for you. But don't feel guilty, you don't have a choice for one, and he's got his dad, for another, he's not alone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LidiyaDawn Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Now to make things worse, because of the conditions, my dh and ds are going to leave this afternoon and stay with my parents closer to the hospital to make sure they can get there in the morning. Why don't you all go and stay with your folks? I suppose it could be crowded, but it's just for a short bit - surely they could squish you guys in somewhere? Or YOU could go and your dh could stay home with the other kids, if you'd really rather be the one there instead? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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