Sandy in Indy Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 I just want to sit down and cry. It's a long story revolving around ds and his girlfriend's family. Our families have two completely different belief systems and thoughts about parenting. (We are conservative; they are quite liberal.) Those differences reared their ugly little heads again last night. The joy of Christmas was literally sucked out of me. No matter how we respond, our next days are going to be strained and unhappy. Note to parents of teens...respect the way others raise their kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 :grouphug: Don't let this steal your joy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratia271 Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 I am so sorry. Though for different reasons, I feel exactly as you do. It's awful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 Why must you be involved with this family during the holidays? Are they engaged? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandy in Indy Posted December 23, 2010 Author Share Posted December 23, 2010 No, they are not engaged. And they don't have to be involved over the holidays--except her parents have dangled something that my ds will choose when he knows we don't approve. (He's so head over heels for her. I think if she asked him to swim naked in the ice he'd do it.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 So do you mean that he'll choose to go spend the day with her family instead of yours? Can he maybe do some of both? Can you just shrug it off as 'young love' (surely we've all been there) and not LET it ruin things for you, and just celebrate with him separately on another day even if it's not right ON Christmas? I don't know what the situation is but try (really, TRY- it might take effort to have a positive attitude but I think it's important) to not let it ruin things for you or the rest of the family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 :grouphug: I am sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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jld Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 (He's so head over heels for her. I think if she asked him to swim naked in the ice he'd do it.) I'm sorry, but I just have to laugh. I think this is what my dh's parents think, too, and we're going on 18 years together! I'm sorry it's hard with the "in-laws". Maybe it's hard for them, too? :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom22ns Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 :lol: I'm afraid my in-laws thought the same. My mom told me when we were decorating for the wedding she ask my mil's opinion and she said "It doesn't matter, whatever Debbie wants is what dh will do." That was over 20 yrs ago. Hang in there. I hope you can all eventually find harmony. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
love2read Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 From a conservative mom to another, if he has been involved with her for less than a 9 months don't even give this another thought. My boys were raised with a courting not dating mindset, but two still went ahead and dated and they picked liberal girls. Once the novelty wore off, and it does, they lost interest and gradually started dating girls that whose beliefs were more similar to our own. Don't lose sleep over this unless this has been a long term relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jld Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 :lol: I'm afraid my in-laws thought the same. My mom told me when we were decorating for the wedding she ask my mil's opinion and she said "It doesn't matter, whatever Debbie wants is what dh will do." That was over 20 yrs ago. Lol! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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