Anyone else have secondary infertility???

[sweetsouthern]

my girls are 10 & 11 now, we have been trying for another for 7 years this month :( my birthday was a few days ago, so i guess the age thing is hitting me kinda hard. we've done some very minor investigation with doctors as to why and we cant seem to come up with an explanation. so we just keep wishing and praying. actually, im not sure it even bothers dh much anymore lol! i think he's pretty much come to the conclusion if it happens great! and if not, we have to. but i was an only child and always thought about having a big family, 4 or more for sure!

 

anyways.. just thought maybe someone else would feel like chatting :)

[mykdsmomy]

Me, me, me!!! We've been trying for 9 years with no real explanation. I too did a little investigating with a few infertility specialists and they came up with nothing. Although I recently found out my uterine lining is extra super thick which is indicative of a hormone imbalance (too much estrogen, not enough progesterone). This may be contributing to our problem but we can't afford to get aggressive with treatments so I don't know :(

 

Although it's been INCREDIBLY difficult over the last several years (many many many negative pg tests followed by hours of crying), I am getting to a place where I'm trying to accept that it may never happen. We plan on adopting again so that helps to get me through the tougher days but it's still hard.

 

Have you modified your diet at all? Are you taking any supplements/etc? I'm here if you want to chat :)

[Abigail4476]

my girls are 10 & 11 now, we have been trying for another for 7 years this month :( my birthday was a few days ago, so i guess the age thing is hitting me kinda hard. we've done some very minor investigation with doctors as to why and we cant seem to come up with an explanation. so we just keep wishing and praying. actually, im not sure it even bothers dh much anymore lol! i think he's pretty much come to the conclusion if it happens great! and if not, we have to. but i was an only child and always thought about having a big family, 4 or more for sure!

 

anyways.. just thought maybe someone else would feel like chatting :)

 

Well, I haven't been diagnosed with anything, but my youngest just turned 8, and we've been trying to get pregnant with child #4 since he was weaned. My husband had finally decided to get a vasectomy last year, since he felt we were getting too old for any "accidents." I had a panic attack over the whole thing even though we discussed it beforehand, so he called it off. He was surprised at my [over]reaction, and told me he was willing to try for a little while longer. lol (I know he's mentally limiting this trial run to a set number of years--or months.) :D

 

Anyway. I don't know what our trouble is, but I'm sure it would take medical treatment to get things moving again.

 

That's all I've got. Not a doctor, but I feel your pain! :grouphug:

[sweetsouthern]

Me, me, me!!! We've been trying for 9 years with no real explanation. I too did a little investigating with a few infertility specialists and they came up with nothing. Although I recently found out my uterine lining is extra super thick which is indicative of a hormone imbalance (too much estrogen, not enough progesterone). This may be contributing to our problem but we can't afford to get aggressive with treatments so I don't know :(

 

 

Although it's been INCREDIBLY difficult over the last several years (many many many negative pg tests followed by hours of crying), I am getting to a place where I'm trying to accept that it may never happen. We plan on adopting again so that helps to get me through the tougher days but it's still hard.

 

Have you modified your diet at all? Are you taking any supplements/etc? I'm here if you want to chat :)

 

yeah we cant afford anything agressive either. the only thing anyone can possibly come up with is that i have some kind of blockage. ive charted and done several herbs through the years and even did 6 months of clomid from one doctor until i developed a cyst :tongue_smilie:

 

Well, I haven't been diagnosed with anything, but my youngest just turned 8, and we've been trying to get pregnant with child #4 since he was weaned. My husband had finally decided to get a vasectomy last year, since he felt we were getting too old for any "accidents." I had a panic attack over the whole thing even though we discussed it beforehand, so he called it off. He was surprised at my [over]reaction, and told me he was willing to try for a little while longer. lol (I know he's mentally limiting this trial run to a set number of years--or months.) :D

 

Anyway. I don't know what our trouble is, but I'm sure it would take medical treatment to get things moving again.

 

That's all I've got. Not a doctor, but I feel your pain! :grouphug:

 

oh yay for dh trying for a bit longer! :D :grouphug:

[Maverick_Mom]

11+ years here. We haven't been actively *trying* but haven't been *not* trying, either. We've always said that we would be okay either way, having more kids or not. But I think I just always assumed that there *would* be more -- especially since #3 and #4 were only 16 months apart. As the years have gone by and there've been no more and I see my reproductive years coming to an end, I do feel very, very sad. Not just that a part of my life will be over -- I think many women feel that, even if they didn't want more kids -- but that I was willing to say 'yes' to another child and didn't have the chance.

 

I'm a Christian and I believe that He knows best. But it's still very sad in some ways.

[Penny_P]

It took us two years to get pg with ds #3. We finally discovered that dh had a prostate infection. That was after I was on clomid and had other tests run. Two weeks of antibiotics and I was pregnant! And, now... surprise! I'm preggers again. :)

[sweetsouthern]

11+ years here. We haven't been actively *trying* but haven't been *not* trying, either. We've always said that we would be okay either way, having more kids or not. But I think I just always assumed that there *would* be more -- especially since #3 and #4 were only 16 months apart. As the years have gone by and there've been no more and I see my reproductive years coming to an end, I do feel very, very sad. Not just that a part of my life will be over -- I think many women feel that, even if they didn't want more kids -- but that I was willing to say 'yes' to another child and didn't have the chance.

 

I'm a Christian and I believe that He knows best. But it's still very sad in some ways.

 

yeah my girls are only 11.5 months apart, so i never thought having more would be difficult lol! dd #1 was sickly as a child, so we didnt try for a few years, then again... we didnt not try either, so really its been even longer :(

 

and i agree He knows best, but still breaks my heart many a times....

 

It took us two years to get pg with ds #3. We finally discovered that dh had a prostate infection. That was after I was on clomid and had other tests run. Two weeks of antibiotics and I was pregnant! And, now... surprise! I'm preggers again. :)

 

congrats mama!! :D

[EthiopianFood]

Not me (I hope; we start trying in January, and I'm a worrier...), but my aunt did. She never used bc, was married for 15 years, and only ended up with three kids. I think it took six years for the first, five years for the second, two years for the third. It turned out she had endometriosis. She still feels badly about it, even though the youngest is 16. I think she sort of wanted to be the mom with ten kids. :(

[at the beach]

We've been married for 22 years and we have three girls, 21, 13 and 11. We have never used b/c, and we've also never used any fertility treatments. We were about to start fertility treatments but before we started, I got pregnant with baby number 2. Then, number 3 came quite easily and nothing after that. Have you all had your husband's sperm counts checked? That's what our issue was. He did have enough on three occasions, though.;) But it isn't necessarily true that because you've had one baby that it couldn't be a low count causing future trouble.

 

I tell myself that there are benefits to every size family, and I really do know that I am blessed. Still, I agree with the pp, it can be very sad for me at times.

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[Pamela H in Texas]

My kids are 18 and 15. About a year and a half ago, we went to another doctor. I got all worked up about it all again. Now, I'm finally, I think for the first time in 15yrs, to the point of "if it happens, fine." It helps, I think, that we really would be starting over. It just never felt like it SO much.

 

I have several dxes regarding my female parts and many of them can affect fertility. It's probably a miracle I had these two considering, but it would have been nice to have many more.

[Lisa in Jax]

We started trying to conceive a second bio child in 1999. Dh and I both have "minor" issues that apparently make a "major" issue together. :(

 

We went to a reproductive endocrinologist about 9 years ago. The basic treatments didn't work, but we weren't comfortable going more "high tech" (IVF), so we stopped doing fertility treatments. A year later, I got pg w/o treatments, but I had a miscarriage at 14-15 weeks. That was a real blow to us emotionally, b/c after deciding to stop treatments, we'd begun to feel comfortable "just" having one child. So, the miscarriage made it all raw again. (Btw, I'm very grateful for the bio dd we have -- she's a terrific kid. So when I write "just" one, I mean that I'm sad that we couldn't have more wonderful kids like her, not that I am less than grateful for her.)

 

Some days, it makes me really sad that we can't have anymore bio kids. As my bio dd gets older, though, it gets easier. Now that she's a senior in high school, having a baby seems too much like starting over.

 

If I had a time machine, I would go back and try to conceive when dd was a baby instead of waiting five years as we did. (Dh was in grad school, and we wanted to wait until we were financially more stable before having another.) If we'd done that, we might have been able to have two bio kids.

 

Lisa

mom of Kaley 17-bio, and Daniel 11-India (home at age 4)