LisaKinVA Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 I have three brothers. Two are married with children. Both have come for a visit for a weekend in the past two weeks. Family #1 -- virtually no communication, children weren't "allowed" to play downstairs with my children, mom didn't speak to me the entire time (other than hello & goodbye). Essentially, we felt "unwelcome" in our own home. We see them 2-3x a year. We have been invited to their home for Thanksgiving... and I am dreading it. Family #2 -- which is the first time most of my children have ever met/seen this family (haven't seen them since 2003), kids off and playing with each other. Several conversations with SIL, nieces & nephews... and I found myself wishing they lived closer, wanting them to stay longer, and starting to plan a special trip to visit. :) On the bright side... my older brother apologized to me for the first time in our lives for anything (specifically cutting me off mid-sentence and refusing --multiple times -- to allow me to finish my thought/point.), and has admitted to being wrong about several things (I never thought I'd see the day). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrystal Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 If you feel that unwelcome in your own home, why subject yourself and your family to a visit at Thanksgiving? I have reached a point in my life where I am okay saying no. If I don't want to do it, I don't. There is nothing saying you have to accept thier offer of Thanksgiving with them. Especially if you know ahead of time that you will be miserable. Just a thought. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheres Toto Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Family #1 -- virtually no communication, children weren't "allowed" to play downstairs with my children, mom didn't speak to me the entire time (other than hello & goodbye). Essentially, we felt "unwelcome" in our own home. We see them 2-3x a year. We have been invited to their home for Thanksgiving... and I am dreading it. Why did they come if they didn't want to actually visit? Was there something else they wanted to see in the area and were just using your house as a hotel? I would have no problem saying no to spending Thanksgiving with them. Why do they want you to come if the kids can't play and they don't want to interact? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetbasil Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 My initial thought with the first visit was -- maybe it has nothing to do with you. Maybe something's going on between husband and wife? Because that is really odd behavior. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 What did family #1 *do* while they were there? They just came to your house and stayed up in their room and didn't speak to you the entire time? Why did they come, then? Seems like a waste of money and time to me.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 Family #1 Essentially, we felt "unwelcome" in our own home. We see them 2-3x a year. We have been invited to their home for Thanksgiving... and I am dreading it. I would not visit them at Thanksgiving. You'll end up feeling unwelcome in their home, too. Life is too short to put up with that, or to subject the family to the rude, unkind treatment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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