Ever feel like poor white trash?

[Mynyel]

This isn't disparage against those that may be labeled or think they are labeled :)

 

I was at the grocery store with my kids. The two olders were wearing their karate uniforms still as it was after practice.

My little was barefoot and in a umbrella stroller.

I was wearing a tanktop (wifebeater for lack of a better description I hate that name but to use a common term) with my nursing bra straps peeking out and my hair in a pony tail.

 

We were at check out and ds2 got out of his stroller and was messing around, again he was barefoot, my daughter was trying to heard him while I was checking out.

 

Then to top it all off I paid with food stamps and knew I was going home to my doublewide.:glare:

 

No point to this really but sometimes I just feel like poor white trash....anyone else ever feel this way?

[Jean in Newcastle]

Yes.

[Granny_Weatherwax]

Yes

 

:grouphug:

[Renee in NC]

:lol::lol::lol:

 

Oh my goodness - YES!

 

:tongue_smilie:

[Pamela H in Texas]

I find "white" added to the description offensive; but yes.

[KidsHappen]

Nope, but only because I refuse to wear shirts that allow my bras straps to show although all of my children do (well, except for my son :tongue_smilie ). I have absolutely no problem going to Publix in my PJs though and I don't even own a real pair of shoes, just some flip flops and slippers. :D

Edited August 8, 2010 by KidsHappen

[elizabeth]

Do you ridicule other people? Do you swear at your children? Do you make racial/ethnic slurs? Do you steal from others every chance you can? Do you disrespect yourself or others by your language and or behaviour? Do you drink and use drugs? Do you care about being well educated whether by self education or formal schooling? If you answered no to all the above and yes to the last you might be impoverished but honey you are not trash. Trash has nothing to do with money or class but in how you treat yourself and others. I know more well to do trash than you can imagine. They are boorish, rude and crass with a vile sense of entitlement that worsens as their pile of worldly goods grows. You might be many things in this world but you are not white trash.

[Renee in NC]

I find "white" added to the description offensive; but yes.

 

Well, then, call it just plain trash?:lol: I knew what she meant. Maybe we should come up with a new label (cause I hate calling anyone "trash").

 

I think I will call myself "economically challenged"!:tongue_smilie:

 

Economically Challenged low-melatonin marginally cultured?

[Rich with Kids]

At times. My big splurge lately for the kids have been a 25 cent coke out of the machine at the grocery store. We don't have ice cream trips (or even ice cream at home, for that matter). We are eating lots of Ramen, rice and beans, etc. I do try to remind myself to be grateful for what I have. That my kids get a thrill from very simple gestures. We are having pudding tonight with cool whip and bananas and they can't wait. There have times recently that I think we are happier now with the very simple things than we ever were when DH was making 2x as much.

 

Something that helps is keeping myself up.. I try to put on a little make-up, get some sun every few days and keep my hair fixed. My clothes don't feel as crappy when I make an effort to iron them properly and maybe put on a little jewelry.

 

The same goes for my house. I try to keep it clean, light candles to make it smell cozy and keep it uncluttered. We don't have expensive furniture, but when beds are made and things are straight it looks loads better.

 

Try to take pride in what you have. Don't be so hard on yourself. :grouphug:

[KathyBC]

Yes.

 

 

 

I'm trying to see things differently. If I practice what I preach, and believe relationships are more important than things, then I am RICH, blessed far more than I deserve. cc ahead ---> Sort of a spin-off of "Lord, teach us to number our days aright." I guess it would be "Lord, teach me to number my blessings aright."

[pooh bear]

This isn't disparage against those that may be labeled or think they are labeled :)

 

I was at the grocery store with my kids. The two olders were wearing their karate uniforms still as it was after practice.

My little was barefoot and in a umbrella stroller.

I was wearing a tanktop (wifebeater for lack of a better description I hate that name but to use a common term) with my nursing bra straps peeking out and my hair in a pony tail.

 

We were at check out and ds2 got out of his stroller and was messing around, again he was barefoot, my daughter was trying to heard him while I was checking out.

 

Then to top it all off I paid with food stamps and knew I was going home to my doublewide.:glare:

 

No point to this really but sometimes I just feel like poor white trash....anyone else ever feel this way?

 

If it will make you fell any better take a look at People of Walmart

 

Be warned, the site does contain some bad language, and does make fun of people, but what some people wear out is unbelievable.

[Cricket]

My kids have been barefoot at the store. They wear stained clothing and sometimes so do I. Sometimes their faces even need wiping. I guess sometimes I don't really notice until we are at the store and then I think, "Oh NO! How could we have left the house like this!" :lol:

[Tap]

Not white trash perse but 'poor and uneducated' I have felt a lot lately. Most of the people I work with have Doctorates and make way more that dh and I make added together on their single income. Several friends have at least one masters degree (some have multiple) and others are in Doctorate programs. Due to my field, I spend a lot of time with doctors and pharmacists. It is uncanny how many of them are married to people in the education fields. Sometimes, I really hate the fact that I am uneducated in the more formal sense of the word. My 15yo community college classes aren't much to talk about in the 'remember in college when xyz....." People don't make me feel ignorant....It is my issue, not theirs.

[hsm6kids]

I sometimes feel caught between white trash and red neck LOL :D, and to top it off I am married to a hispanic man and my children are bi-racial, so when I go to the store I am looked at and scrutinized often....even worse when I am wearing my hippie skirt, wife beater, flip flops and then remember that dd put flowers in my hair when she was playing in the yard.....lol they weren't staring 'cuz they thought I was beautiful LOL :lol:

[Firestar Academy]

 

No point to this really but sometimes I just feel like poor white trash....anyone else ever feel this way?

 

ummm,,yes...... I live in an affluent neighborhood where people think it ok to throw our perfectly good stuff.... We call it shopping at curbys....

 

One place, I got a double stroller and two nice single strollers (must have had twins) . Leter, I sold them for $50 (double) and $20 each. :D

 

so yes, I continually feel like white trash....

 

Robin in NJ

[BigMamaBird]

This isn't disparage against those that may be labeled or think they are labeled :)

 

I was at the grocery store with my kids. The two olders were wearing their karate uniforms still as it was after practice.

My little was barefoot and in a umbrella stroller.

I was wearing a tanktop (wifebeater for lack of a better description I hate that name but to use a common term) with my nursing bra straps peeking out and my hair in a pony tail.

 

We were at check out and ds2 got out of his stroller and was messing around, again he was barefoot, my daughter was trying to heard him while I was checking out.

 

Then to top it all off I paid with food stamps and knew I was going home to my doublewide.:glare:

 

No point to this really but sometimes I just feel like poor white trash....anyone else ever feel this way?

 

As fellow "Queen of the Double Wide" some days you just have to embrace the trashiness! My dh teased me while I was expecting because he came home, I was barefoot, pregnant and playing the fiddle while our hound dog watched. We also got a possum under our house once. Yup, that made me feel classy.

 

Go get some Faygo, Wonderbread, crank up the country and love it!

[Jen in PA]

:grouphug:

[BigMamaBird]

Do you ridicule other people? Do you swear at your children? Do you make racial/ethnic slurs? Do you steal from others every chance you can? Do you disrespect yourself or others by your language and or behaviour? Do you drink and use drugs? Do you care about being well educated whether by self education or formal schooling? If you answered no to all the above and yes to the last you might be impoverished but honey you are not trash. Trash has nothing to do with money or class but in how you treat yourself and others. I know more well to do trash than you can imagine. They are boorish, rude and crass with a vile sense of entitlement that worsens as their pile of worldly goods grows. You might be many things in this world but you are not white trash.

 

:hurray:What she said!

[3littlekeets]

Do you ridicule other people? Do you swear at your children? Do you make racial/ethnic slurs? Do you steal from others every chance you can? Do you disrespect yourself or others by your language and or behaviour? Do you drink and use drugs? Do you care about being well educated whether by self education or formal schooling? If you answered no to all the above and yes to the last you might be impoverished but honey you are not trash. Trash has nothing to do with money or class but in how you treat yourself and others. I know more well to do trash than you can imagine. They are boorish, rude and crass with a vile sense of entitlement that worsens as their pile of worldly goods grows. You might be many things in this world but you are not white trash.

 

 

Wow...that was truly beautiful! Thanks for the words for thought.

[AmethystMoon]

As fellow "Queen of the Double Wide" some days you just have to embrace the trashiness! My dh teased me while I was expecting because he came home, I was barefoot, pregnant and playing the fiddle while our hound dog watched. We also got a possum under our house once. Yup, that made me feel classy.

 

Go get some Faygo, Wonderbread, crank up the country and love it!

 

This made my giggle a bit. We recently bought a "double wide" manufactured home. :tongue_smilie: We also live in a "Manufactured home community". We call it what it is. We live in a double wide in a trailer park. :tongue_smilie: Oh well. My kids are fed, clothed, have a bed to sleep in and worship God daily. My husband loves me and comes home to me every day. What more can I ask for?

 

I agree with the above poster that we just need to enjoy it. (I'm not sure what faygo is though.)

[JWSJ]

Well, I need some more information to add a cultural label:

 

How many and what kinds of visible tattoos do you have?

 

Do you have all your teeth?

 

:)

[Belacqua]

ummm,,yes...... I live in an affluent neighborhood where people think it ok to throw our perfectly good stuff.... We call it shopping at curbys....

 

 

 

That just made me spit out my iced tea. How's that for classy?

[Rich with Kids]

Well, I need some more information to add a cultural label:

 

How many and what kinds of visible tattoos do you have?

 

Do you have all your teeth?

 

:)

 

And do you have a recliner and/or a washing machine on your front porch?

[Dobela]

 

I sometimes feel caught between white trash and red neck LOL :D, and to top it off I am married to a hispanic man and my children are bi-racial, so when I go to the store I am looked at and scrutinized often....even worse when I am wearing my hippie skirt, wife beater, flip flops and then remember that dd put flowers in my hair when she was playing in the yard.....lol they weren't staring 'cuz they thought I was beautiful LOL :lol:

LOL I know exactly what you mean! My children are African American and I am white. Plus I am over weight. Both of my kids are almost too big for their summer clothes and I don't want to buy all new with a month of really hot weather left and I tend to wear my clothes loose so you may see us out in poorly fitting clothes. Not to mention that neither child cares is any thing matches.... I think we really embarass my very proper and stylish mom sometimes. :D We can't go out looking preppy every day ;)

[Crimson Wife]

Trash has nothing to do with money or class but in how you treat yourself and others. I know more well to do trash than you can imagine. They are boorish, rude and crass with a vile sense of entitlement that worsens as their pile of worldly goods grows. You might be many things in this world but you are not white trash.

 

:iagree::iagree::iagree:

Trashy people can wear designer clothes and have fancy degrees hanging on the wall of their fancy McMansions.

 

Chin up, sweetie! :grouphug:

[Ottakee]

ummm,,yes...... I live in an affluent neighborhood where people think it ok to throw our perfectly good stuff.... We call it shopping at curbys....

 

 

 

We often decorate in "early attic" or "modern poverty".

 

I have been known recently to go into the local mini mart in my BARN clothes and barn boots.

[LG Gone Wild]

I have had those moments and I am not even white. I agree with elizabeth although I appreciate jokes based on racial/cultural quirks.

 

Lots of rich trash out there - Jersey Shore, Real Housewives of whatever city you pick, queen bee moms, kingpin dads, professional athletes, politicians...you get my drift

 

I used to refer to our house as the redneck Sanford and Son because dh had all kinds of rusted automotive stuff in our yard.

Edited August 8, 2010 by LG Gone Wild

[lswatson111304]

As fellow "Queen of the Double Wide" some days you just have to embrace the trashiness! My dh teased me while I was expecting because he came home, I was barefoot, pregnant and playing the fiddle while our hound dog watched. We also got a possum under our house once. Yup, that made me feel classy.

 

Go get some Faygo, Wonderbread, crank up the country and love it!

 

:D

Ahh! Me too! I live in a "doublewide" actually its a single wide with additions! We love our hound dogs, and we had an opossum on our porch before that my friend tried to hit with a frying pan! Gotta love it!

 

To the OP, yes, every day. I can't wait for my Mansion!

[ThatCyndiGirl]

I have a neighbor (fellow homeschooling mom) who ONLY stops by when I'm not wearing a bra. So, typically, I see her coming up the walk and I'm running to the laundry room to put bra on. Yesterday I actually had the girls corralled. Like an idiot I told her, "Wow! I think that this is the first time you have ever come over when I was wearing a bra ALREADY!" :001_huh:

 

I was thinking, "YAY, ME!!" She just laughed.

 

At least I finally got tha fridge off of my front porch.

 

Thank you, Freecycle!

[Lovedtodeath]

 

There have times recently that I think we are happier now with the very simple things than we ever were when DH was making 2x as much.

:iagree:Soup in a can is a treat for us now. lol

[ThatCyndiGirl]

:iagree:Soup in a can is a treat for us now. lol

 

 

DH and I made a trip today to a little town a bit away from ours just to pick up a big tractor tire that someone was giving away for free on Craigslist. It was such a nice time, just the two of us. I said,"we havn't been on a road trip for such a long time!". (Wasn't really much of a roadtrip, but still......it felt like a date!)

 

I keep thinking of that Russell quote from UP,

"It might sound boring, but it’s the boring stuff I remember the most." :001_smile:

[Lovedtodeath]

DH and I made a trip today to a little town a bit away from ours just to pick up a big tractor tire that someone was giving away for free on Craigslist. It was such a nice time, just the two of us. I said,"we havn't been on a road trip for such a long time!". (Wasn't really much of a roadtrip, but still......it felt like a date!)

 

I keep thinking of that Russell quote from UP,

"It might sound boring, but it’s the boring stuff I remember the most." :001_smile:

Yes, that sounds like us too!

[Jen+4dc]

Do you ridicule other people? Do you swear at your children? Do you make racial/ethnic slurs? Do you steal from others every chance you can? Do you disrespect yourself or others by your language and or behaviour? Do you drink and use drugs? Do you care about being well educated whether by self education or formal schooling? If you answered no to all the above and yes to the last you might be impoverished but honey you are not trash. Trash has nothing to do with money or class but in how you treat yourself and others. I know more well to do trash than you can imagine. They are boorish, rude and crass with a vile sense of entitlement that worsens as their pile of worldly goods grows. You might be many things in this world but you are not white trash.

:iagree::iagree:

 

But, OP, I know what you mean. There was a time (4 kids ago) when I actually wore make-up and showered everyday!!:D

[Wayfaring Stranger]

The OP's story made me think of a bumper sticker I once saw that said, "I would rather the government feed my kids than educate them." :001_smile:

[elegantlion]

The OP's story made me think of a bumper sticker I once saw that said, "I would rather the government feed my kids than educate them." :001_smile:

 

:D:D:D

 

 

It's hot down here in the south. I wear tank tops daily. Today I was wearing my sweat shorts because I worked around the house. Cat is out of food and dh didn't want to go to the store.

 

I keep a workout jacket or sweater by the backdoor to throw over my "wife beater". I never leave the house without under eye concealer and my hair was having a frizzy day.

 

So I threw on the jacket and flew down to Dollar General to get the cat food. I looked harried for sure. If I had been going to Walmart I would have changed, least I end up on the people of Walmart website. :lol:

[amy g.]

Well, I was in Target with Miss Happy because the only clothes she could fit this morning was a stained white onsie. It was so tight that the snaps kept unsnapping.

 

Then she had the world's biggest dirty diaper. When I changed her, I had to throw the onsie away too. I felt pretty trashy walking around Target holding my baby who was naked except for her diaper.

 

Miss Good asked me if I got any negative comments. I said, "No one DARED."

[BigMamaBird]

This made my giggle a bit. We recently bought a "double wide" manufactured home. :tongue_smilie: We also live in a "Manufactured home community". We call it what it is. We live in a double wide in a trailer park. :tongue_smilie: Oh well. My kids are fed, clothed, have a bed to sleep in and worship God daily. My husband loves me and comes home to me every day. What more can I ask for?

 

I agree with the above poster that we just need to enjoy it. (I'm not sure what faygo is though.)

 

Faygo is a brand of cheap pop. It might just be a Midwest thing. It comes in all sorts of teeth rotting, internal organ staining "flavors." The most popular being Grape, Orange and Red.

[KathyBC]

I have a freezer on my front porch, does that count?

[ConnieB]

I am poor only in the bank account.

[lapsetmom]

Yay, I don't feel so alone!

[hsmom3tn]

Do you ridicule other people? Do you swear at your children? Do you make racial/ethnic slurs? Do you steal from others every chance you can? Do you disrespect yourself or others by your language and or behaviour? Do you drink and use drugs? Do you care about being well educated whether by self education or formal schooling? If you answered no to all the above and yes to the last you might be impoverished but honey you are not trash. Trash has nothing to do with money or class but in how you treat yourself and others. I know more well to do trash than you can imagine. They are boorish, rude and crass with a vile sense of entitlement that worsens as their pile of worldly goods grows. You might be many things in this world but you are not white trash.

 

Well said. :)

 

Not white trash perse but 'poor and uneducated' I have felt a lot lately. . . .... People don't make me feel ignorant....It is my issue, not theirs.

 

:grouphug: This is me, too.

 

Well, I was in Target with Miss Happy because the only clothes she could fit this morning was a stained white onsie. It was so tight that the snaps kept unsnapping.

 

Then she had the world's biggest dirty diaper. When I changed her, I had to throw the onsie away too. I felt pretty trashy walking around Target holding my baby who was naked except for her diaper.

 

Miss Good asked me if I got any negative comments. I said, "No one DARED."

 

:lol: :lol: :lol:

[lisamarie]

That would have been yesterday. We live in a pretty nice subdivision. A college professor and his working wife with 3 kids moved in next door a few months back. My kids were over there playing last night in the front yard. When I went to check on them, they were missing so I walked to the backyard in my workout shorts and too-tight workout shirt with a sports bra on and found Mrs. Classy back there. She totally checked out my outfit and I admit to feeling completely embarrassed.

 

They wear stained clothing. Sometimes their faces even need wiping. I guess sometimes I don't really notice until we are at the store and then I think, "Oh NO! How could we have left the house like this!" :lol:

:iagree: This would be my life. My DD5 is the worst with non-matching, too small clothes. And my girls just cannot eat without leaving a mess of it behind on their faces. We're constantly out in public with them looking like this.

[Georgiana Daniels]

I'm jealous of all you folks in a double-wide. We are stuck in a single!!!!!! Trying to sell...to no avail.

 

Anyhoo, most of the people we know/hang out with are double income families with lots in savings and retirement, live in nice subdivions, and drive nice cars. Sigh. It's hard always being the one that others secretly feel sorry for.

 

So yeah...not totally white, but I've been there!

[Greta]

Okay, I have to ask what is apparently a dumb question. What is a "wife-beater"?!? And where did such a term originate - for an item of clothing??? I must be really out of it.

[melissel]

Okay, I have to ask what is apparently a dumb question. What is a "wife-beater"?!? And where did such a term originate - for an item of clothing??? I must be really out of it.

 

Around here, it's a tank-top style undershirt. From my understanding, it's the kind of undershirt the guy might wear while he...does what the name implies :( I grew up calling it a "guinea" tee--and I didn't know what that mean either, until I was an adult and DH explained it to me. He also introduced me to the term wife beater. He still calls it that, and I can't stand it :glare:

[Marylou]

I don't think anyone should be called "trash".

 

Did you know there's a cookbook called White Trash Cooking ? Strange!

[HRAAB]

Okay, I have to ask what is apparently a dumb question. What is a "wife-beater"?!? And where did such a term originate - for an item of clothing??? I must be really out of it.

 

Someone beat me to it. Because it could show bruises???

 

I can't believe the stuff I learn on this board.

[Marylou]

I can't believe the stuff I learn on this board.

 

Ditto :001_smile:

[RoughCollie]

Yes.

[KidsHappen]

And do you have a recliner and/or a washing machine on your front porch?

 

My brother has a toilet in his front yard. Does that count?