Parents of hormonal pre-teen girls...HELP!

[5LittleMonkeys]

I am in uncharted waters here. My oldest is twelve and has once a month bouts with hormones but they usually manifest themselves in a bit of grumpiness and tiredness for one day. My second oldest is 11 and has yet to get her period but for the last several months has been complaining about her head hurting "horribly" and feeling overwhelmingly sad. A few weeks ago she told me that her head hurt but when I suggested she lie down with a cold rag she said it wasn't that kind of hurting. She said it was as if her mind hurt.:confused: This afternoon she went swimming but came home early. She complained again of a terrible headache and then burst out in tears saying she was tired of her head hurting and felt like her life was over! I told her to go take a shower and then she could help me with dinner. After she came back downstairs she was perfectly fine and acted completely normal again. I asked about the headache and she said it wasn't as bad anymore.

 

Please someone tell me this is hormones and that your dd went through something like this. I guess what's throwing me is the complaint of horrible headaches. I never had headache pain in conjunction with hormonal swings and neither has anyone else in my family.

[tricia]

I have 4 daughters right now who are 28, 23, 21, and 20. Plus I have 5 more daughters who are now 12, 12, 10, 7, and 4 so I've had a bit of girl experience!! As for the older 4 girls I don't remember headaches but I had them when I was young. It is normal during this time to get them. Especially migraines. As far as all the emotional ups and downs they all did pretty well but that could just be because we didn't have time for it!!:lol: Nor could I have tolerated it!!:tongue_smilie: Basically if they seemed close to a meltdown I would have to nip it in the bud and help them get over it. Kind of like what you did with having her help with dinner. As for my twins who are 12, it's kind of the same thing. I don't have a lot of patience for whiney, emotional children who let everything freak them out so I think they try to keep things in check since they know this about me! Plus I've found that the healthier I feed them the less whacked out they are!!:lol: As my mother always said, "This too shall pass."

[PollyOR]

:grouphug: This is all I can do.

[5LittleMonkeys]

It is normal during this time to get them. Especially migraines

 

You know, I get migraines occasionally. It didn't even dawn on me that these headaches could be migraines. I know when I do get them (non-hormonal related) they make me what to cry.

 

:grouphug: This is all I can do.

 

I'll take it!

[Jilly]

When I was younger I always got a headache, and today I still do. Every month for about a day or two I get terrible migraines, and it is directly related to hormones. I think it is very normal for some, and the only thing that helps me is some chocolate and quiet time.

[tricia]

Migraines have been known to be caused by estrogen dominance too. Which again is normal for anyone going through hormonal changes such as puberty, pregnancy, etc. I agree with the one who said to keep her well hydrated. That's a plus where headaches are concerned.

[Paula in PA]

Ok, maybe it's just a coincidence, but my dd was complaining about headaches a lot these past few months and having bouts of sadness as well, and she just had her first period over this past weekend. I initially chalked it up to hormones, which it is, but I wonder if it could be part of the body's preparation for the first menses for some girls.

 

In any case, my sympathies are with you. The period is over, but the hormones are definitely not.

[Rosie_0801]

It could be worth getting her checked by a chiropractor. Regular adjustments helped with my cramps, which I expected, but it helped with the mood swings too, which I didn't expect! Even if it doesn't turn out to be a chiropractic issue, it won't do any harm and didn't involve medication.

 

Rosie