Merry Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 (edited) girl to take her to one at her high school. I've never quite encountered this situation before with my three older homeschooled boys when they were in high school. They did have girlfriends who mostly hung out with friends and went places in groups. So, I'm a bit nervous about this one. My ds says that the girl just wants an escort to the prom. She is in his youth group but she's not a Christian even though she appears to be a nice girl, far as I can tell without having actually met her or knowing anyone who knows her. My ds wants to go and see what a prom is like which is very understandable and I might let him go except that he would not be going in a group of friends which seems a bit sticky to me. I do trust my ds but I'm not sure if he knows what the girl is thinking or expecting. Teenage boys can be clueless that way. And what really goes on at proms? I graduated way back in the early 1970's and I'm sure things have changed since then, right? Edited April 25, 2010 by Merry clarity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LauraQ Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 I think it's regional. You'd have to ask locals. I'd suggest that if you let him go, you set down clear rules. I wouldn't allow him to go to after-prom parties, even if they are hosted by parents, because many parents today do NOT have the same sort of rules you do, and might allow things (including sex & alcohol) that you wouldn't. Require him to keep a cell phone with him so you can call and check on him, and he can call you in case he needs to bail. Play chauffeur so they can't park on their way there and back. Rent a really cool car if you think it will make the idea more appealing to them. Just for one night, it's not as pricey as you might think to get something uber-cool. Tell him in no uncertain terms before he leaves what is and is not okay with you. If you don't want him kissing her, say so. If you don't want him drinking alcohol, say so. If you don't want him having sex, say so, even if you don't think it's necessary. Leave no room for questions ;-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merry Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 beforehand. I see that I need to be talking more to my ds and other people. Thanks for your suggestions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Cheryl in SoCal Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Where I live (Southern California) it's BAD but it may be different where you live. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 My dh just worked two proms this weekend and they were a mix - some kids were there to dance and have fun with their friends. Others were there to get drunk and high. Friday there was an arrest and Saturday there was an alcohol poisoning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merry Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 but I couldn't find any articles about any incidents at this public high school. But still.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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