ChristusG Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 My MIL (who I don't totally trust with everything she says) told me that someone who allows their older child (say 4 years and up) to sleep in the bed with them can get in trouble with the law? Or childrens services? Or something like that. Is this really true??? If so, that's absolutely absurd. She said it is to stop all the weirdos from sleeping with their children. Huh????? I can guarantee that if any weirdo wants to do something to a child, they are going to do it whether they are sleeping in the bed with them or not. The whole conversation kind of made me go :confused::confused::confused:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I'm in trouble then, because I even make my 15 year old sleep with me if Dh is out of town, and I get scared. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Not true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I don't think so. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Not true BUT one of the moms on this board who is having issues with children services (don't know what they call it in Canada) had co-sleeping brought up as a negative by the social worker. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissel Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Not true BUT one of the moms on this board who is having issues with children services (don't know what they call it in Canada) had co-sleeping brought up as a negative by the social worker. Yes, it's not illegal, but it can be viewed in a negative light for any number of reasons: You're a pervert, you're codependent and making your child that way, etc. It's so depressing. Even BFing has been used against people by the authorities :glare: :grouphug: to the mama in question. I know she's standing her ground and staying strong! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeneralMom Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Absolutely not. The only thing it can interfere in is if you do a homestudy for foster care or adoption - some social welfare agencies look at it askance. My 6yo has spent a total of 1 whole night in his life in his own bed....we keep trying and he keeps coming back. Oh well, he'll be goign to college in 12 years or so..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 I thought it sounded a little nutty to me LOL :D My 5 year old DD still sleeps in our room in her own bed....and in our bed occasionally. My 2 year old still sleeps in the bed with us. I told MIL that if I could get in trouble for letting my 5 year old sleep with us, then they would really freak when they found out I was still nursing my almost 3 year old LOL. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 It's not illegal, and not considered enough to spark an investigation in and of itself. It is, however, perceived negatively by many in social services and can be held against you in an investigation of other abuse. It's not considered criminal--it's just a factor they put down as part of the family profile. It's on the same footing as extended breastfeeding. That said, I absolutely would NOT change a thing as it is wrong, wrong, wrong for social services to exert that level of control over families and children. There are, unfortunately, many things that are perfectly legal but can be held against a parent in a DCFS investigation. They operate by "guidelines." Those guidelines should not affect the behavior of normal, non-abusive families. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) Me thinks MIL may have some deep issues that need counseling. I did not practice co-sleeping -- but do not see any wrong about it. Does she have problems with this, ya think? Her opinion is quite conservative. Yikes. :D Edited January 8, 2010 by tex-mex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 Me thinks MIL may have some deep issues that need counseling. Does she have problems with this, ya think? Her opinion is quite out there. Wow. :001_huh: Either that or she is really not up on news and CPS. :D MIL is......well, her own character LOL. She just flew home today after a 15 day visit with us. She's as nice as can be, compliments me endlessly, is very sweet.....but she has her own ideas about some things. She never criticizes our parenting, but does the opposite....she praises it for the most part. So I have no idea how this topic was brought up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3littlekeets Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Geez...my 11 yo son, 7 yo son, and 8 yo dd fight about who gets to snuggle up to me when DH is gone for the night...and at least 1 night in 10, one of them ends up with us by 4 am, LOL. We have a cuddly family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I thought it sounded a little nutty to me LOL :D My 5 year old DD still sleeps in our room in her own bed....and in our bed occasionally. My 2 year old still sleeps in the bed with us. Pretty similar to our situation. We call our master bedroom "the dormatory." My husband and I start out in our own king bed. By the middle of the night, the kids are in our bed. By the morning, my husband and I are in the kids' bed (which is in our room). This dance is repeated almost nightly! :D I guess if we ever get called on the carpet, we at least have the defense that we try to get away from them nightly. :001_huh::tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Well, I guess I am a total freak then. Both of my boys sleep with me when dh is out of town. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Poppycock. Balderdash. Pishposh. IOW, she's full of beans. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LauraGB Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Geeze, when dh is gone, dd and ds are both in my bed. I wonder what your MIL would say if she knew the dog and the cat are also in there with us? :eek: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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