emzhengjiu Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 Yesterday my daughters (12 and just turned 9) visited a friend's grandparents along with another child. The friend (almost 8) is the daughter of one of my friends. I've met the grandparents at their house and thought they were lovely people. My friend feels strongly against guns since her brother was killed in a gun accident. She doesn't allow any type of play with guns at all nor will she allow them in her home. I never thought to ask if the grandparents had guns and how they were stored. The grandparents' cat has a fun litter of kittens! While following one of the kittens, all the children ended up in the grandparents' bedroom. The other child while climbing on the bed found a gun hidden under a pillow. Thankfully, none of the children touched the gun. Last night as I was working, my 12 year old casually mentions they played with the kittens and found a gun. It took a few moments for her words to sink in. When they did, I was very upset. After talking with my girls and my friend, it turns out the handgun under the pillow was loaded but the safety was on. Does this mean the gun couldn't be fired by a child? I know so little about guns. There was also a rifle or shotgun on the dresser and another handgun in a jewelry box. I'm not sure if these other guns were loaded. First, I was shocked that guns were accessible in a home where children were invited although to be fair only the grandparents live there. Then I was shocked that that my daughters treated it so casually after what I thought were many discussions about safety including gun safety. At least they didn't touch it. Also, my daughters know (or so I thought) that they are not allowed in private parts of someones home such as adult bedrooms. I'm not going to discipline my girls this time. After long talks last night, I've decided neither were thinking! It wasn't disobedience. My friend told me last night that I'm overreacting for these reasons: the safety was on, the children never touched the guns, and boys are the ones who are usually curious about guns, her daughter is well trained not to touch guns, and the children were where they were not supposed to be. She did mention she should have checked on the kids more closely though knowing guns were in the house. As of now, my girls are not allowed to visit my friend's parents anymore. So am I over reacting? What would you guys do in this situation? Also, do you ask about guns or other safety issues when your children visit others? I didn't get any sleep last night thinking about what could have happened and how many other gaps I may have left in my girls safety training. Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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