Jean in Newcastle Posted July 6, 2009 Share Posted July 6, 2009 I rarely use child-care. For one thing, I don't feel like I usually need it. My kids are well-behaved and can handle adult settings as well as more child friendly ones. And Grandma and Grandpa live about a half hour in the opposite direction from any activity we would be going to so by the time we dropped off the kids and then drove back in the direction we would need to go it would add at least an hour to our drive time. And then we would need to reverse that after the activity. So unless it is an emergency situation, or dh and I specifically plan a date night close to Grandma and Grandpa's house, we don't do it. The only friends we trust to watch the kids live closer to an hour away (again in the "wrong" direction). The problem is our new church. It is a very small church (about 40 people). Dh has been asked to help the pastor there as an assistant/possible replacement when the current pastor retires. I want to get to know the ladies there. But all the activities for ladies come without child-care or with child-care for infants only. That wouldn't bother me. My kids would be fine with book in the corner or else participating by listening etc. When I've asked if they could come, I've been told that kids would be bored and so to leave them home. Dh works over 40 hours per week. On a weekend, he can let them play or plug them into a video but on work days he can't watch them. So far I've just nodded and have opted out. But I'm wondering if I should push it a bit by suggesting that they come anyway (with a book or activity). My hesitation is not wanting to "rock the boat" in anyway when I'm just getting to know them. What do you think? The other issue is that there are hardly any other families with children and I've noticed that none of those moms choose to come to ladies' activities. So I suppose I could suggest that I organize something for mom's with kids so that perhaps we could start including them too - but that would defeat my purpose of wanting to get to know the ladies. Or would serving a "higher purpose" trump getting to know the ladies? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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