Sherri in MI Posted July 2, 2009 Share Posted July 2, 2009 Hi all, I need some support (and unemotional opinions) from other homeschool moms here. My son is in camp for the first time. He's 10. He was very excited the weeks leading up to camp, but when we dropped him off Sunday afternoon he was very nervous. He doesn't know anyone there. He was nervous about being away from home for so long too. We dropped him off Sunday night. Monday morning he had his first horseback riding lesson ever in his life. I wanted to be there to see and he wanted me there. He had a great time and I was thrilled to be watching it! He said to me, "All my life I wanted to ride a horse." I wouldn't have missed that for the world! My being there did not inhibit or distract him in the least. He was enjoying camp and excited and bubbly. I stayed talking to some friends of mine for about an hour after my son was off to his next activity. He wanted Dad to visit that night so he did, but Dad asked me to join him, so I did. We stayed away all day Tuesday & Wednesday. I dropped by for a few minutes Wed. (last) night. He seemed tired and homesick, but said he was having a great time. I told him feeling homesick was normal & I'm glad he's having a great time. He asked for some pants (he was kind of made to feel bad at his lessons for not having them), so Dad took them this morning. Said hi, gave him the pants, said bye. Tomorrow afternoon we pick him up. The camp materials state that parents are allowed to visit freely (it's only 20 minutes away) but each time my husband or I visit (including the very first time!), the Camp Secretary (who is the Director's wife) makes sarcastic remarks. I know her (barely) from our homeschool group. She is always friendly, but each time I've been there (3x) she says sarcastic (with a smile) things like, "You again?" "You're here so much I should charge you as a camper." I laughed and replied, "Just put me to work!" ng lessons that he needed to have pants) and dh dropped them off this morning and she said to my husband, "That poor kid!" She always says these things with a smile on her face, but she's done it from the start and it is making me quite uncomfortable. When I was there Mon. evening with dh, and we were hanging out waiting for ds, I caught her checking me out head to toe. I really want to like her, but she is starting to offend me and bringing out the mama bear in me. I think she has me judged me as over-protective, or maybe she thinks I don't trust them. I have only met one other parent when I've visited. So maybe they say it's okay, but there is a culture of "don't visit", if you know what I mean. But one of my friends from co-op is helping out there so she can be near her daughter who is attending camp for the first time. We have talked to our son and have worked out a visiting schedule that he and we are comfortable with. All my visits actually have nothing to do with my nervousness at all or missing him (though I do). They have to do with his adjustment & needs - he was nervous about being away from us. My problem is with the Camp Secretary and her comments. After her last comment to my dh, I am angry with her. I think she's being inappropriate. I tried to overlook it. We're obviously bugging her, but her comments are inappropriate. We paid for camp, they have an open visitation policy, it's my kid and I can visit her when I very well want too. If she feels it's hindering his adjustment to camp she should politely talk to me about it. But it seems like a personal thing to her. I've worked with kids. I've taken church kids to camp before. I've had parents volunteer to help with camp so they can be with there kids. At first it bugged me, but I respected their right to be there. I've had parents bring their kids to the nursery, but stay with them - every week! I've been on both ends of this. And I've had my opinions of the parent's behavior at times, but kept them to myself and tried to be helpful to them. But I don't get her attitude toward us. She's giving mixed messages. Would this bug you? My only options as I see it are: let it go or try to talk to her about it (draw her out a little and let her know she made me uncomfortable). I hope she doesn't do that to other parents. Thanks for listening! Sherri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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