plain jane Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 (edited) I would really like to know how you all do it. For those of you out there whose heart desperately yearns for another child but for one reason or another, are unable to, what gets you through it all? How do you face each day with gladness and peace in your heart when it filled with such an unquenchable longing? I've heard so much of "advice" from others who have NOT BTDT: just be thankful for the kids you already have, atleast you already have children; you've got enough, you really don't need anyore; you're so lucky you don't have X number of children all one after the other, must be nice to not be pregnant or nursing all the time.:glare: No, actually, it's not. I'm pretty done with peoples' comments who just have no clue of the sorrow people who want to have more kids go through. If they have nothing nice to say, can't they just say nothing at all? ;) For the last several months, I've had a real emptiness in my heart. A deep void that I know only a child can fill. But how do I fill that void when another pregnancy isn't likely?? I don't want to give up hope, but at the same time, that hope is exactly the thing that causes my heart to hurt even more. I'm incredibly thankful for the kids I already have, don't get me wrong there. I pour my whole heart and soul into these little ones as they are everything to me. Still I feel like there's a void in my life left by the little ones I've lost and the kids that I long to have. I know I'm not alone in this and would like to hear how others have dealt with this sort of pain. How do you keep your heart from breaking when your best friend tells you she's pregnant with her 7th (and it's said with a sigh of why does it have to be so?) or when your kids ask you for a new baby brother or sister, or when everywhere you go all you see are pregnant women or babies?? How do you keep the jealousy from creeping up everytime someone you know is pregnant again, even though you really want to be happy for them but inside it makes you cry all the more. And how do you keep your composure each day as you watch your children grow, knowing that you may never again get to experience that special milestone- that first word, those first steps, riding their first bike, those wonderful baby smells and gurgling coos. I want to know how you all carry on when the burden seems so impossibly heavy. Edited July 1, 2009 by plain jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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